# Can’t cum with sex **URL:** \ **Category:** ⏳ Delayed ejaculation\ **Created:** [August 7, 2025, 10:58pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843 "2025-08-07T22:58:16Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 12\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![civic-blue-catshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ec9cab/32.png) [@civic-blue-catshark](https://community.mymojo.com/u/civic-blue-catshark)\ **Post date:** [August 7, 2025, 10:58pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/1 "2025-08-07T22:58:16Z")
I’ve always had trouble finishing during sex. When I masturbate, it’s not an issue, but with sex it’s been a problem for most of my life, so I’ve ended up faking it most of the time. Honestly, probably 95% of the time I don’t finish and just pretend I did. The thing is, I love sex. I just don’t know if I can always climax. Sometimes I do, but it’s rare. I’m curious if anyone else deals with this. ---
**Author:** ![ideal-fuchsia-gull](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7ab992/32.png) [@ideal-fuchsia-gull](https://community.mymojo.com/u/ideal-fuchsia-gull)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2025, 1:11am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/2 "2025-08-08T01:11:17Z")
Yes. I can almost never cum with a partner. It’s extraordinary if I do, even if I’m jacking off with him. ---
**Author:** ![new-silver-hippopotamus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@new-silver-hippopotamus](https://community.mymojo.com/u/new-silver-hippopotamus)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2025, 5:26am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/3 "2025-08-08T05:26:02Z")
I’m in the same position - and now it’s progressed at the point where I feel like I get soft during penetration Can anyone give us recommendations for this? ---
**Author:** ![nutritious-ivory-pony](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/6a8cbe/32.png) [@nutritious-ivory-pony](https://community.mymojo.com/u/nutritious-ivory-pony)\ **Post date:** [August 8, 2025, 11:18pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/4 "2025-08-08T23:18:29Z")
this is interesting, I have the other problem, I cum too early. I guess I am too focused on the pleasure feeling and I get excited too quickly, but thats bad bcz she isnt done and I end up having to cum multiple times. How do u guys feel or think when having sex? ---
**Author:** ![superb-fuchsia-asp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e5b9ba/32.png) [@superb-fuchsia-asp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/superb-fuchsia-asp)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2025, 1:03am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/5 "2025-08-09T01:03:06Z")
I’m overcoming PED but still have trouble finishing with a partner. I still have to finish myself. Sometimes it even takes me forever after I’ve had sex for 10-20 min…. Often I’ll fantasize that she’s forcing me to do it for her and her friends as an audience… using a fear as a fantasy…. It’s twisted, but kinda turns me on… My death grip issue stems from going solo with porn for years in a bad marriage… New gf is helping me overcome it and is all in. ---
**Author:** ![civic-blue-catshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ec9cab/32.png) [@civic-blue-catshark](https://community.mymojo.com/u/civic-blue-catshark)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2025, 11:31am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/6 "2025-08-09T11:31:43Z")
Using fantasies is a good idea…the problem for me is that I try to get into the fantasy so much that I lose myself out of the moment… ---
**Author:** ![civic-blue-catshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ec9cab/32.png) [@civic-blue-catshark](https://community.mymojo.com/u/civic-blue-catshark)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2025, 11:32am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/7 "2025-08-09T11:32:15Z")
Coming multiple times sounds great! If you are still hard keep it going!!! ---
**Author:** ![civic-blue-catshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ec9cab/32.png) [@civic-blue-catshark](https://community.mymojo.com/u/civic-blue-catshark)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2025, 11:32am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/8 "2025-08-09T11:32:54Z")
That happens to me sometimes… ---
**Author:** ![civic-blue-catshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ec9cab/32.png) [@civic-blue-catshark](https://community.mymojo.com/u/civic-blue-catshark)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2025, 11:40am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/9 "2025-08-09T11:40:00Z")
You won’t come with mutual masturbation? ---
**Author:** ![nutritious-ivory-pony](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/6a8cbe/32.png) [@nutritious-ivory-pony](https://community.mymojo.com/u/nutritious-ivory-pony)\ **Post date:** [August 9, 2025, 1:08pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/10 "2025-08-09T13:08:57Z")
its not bad, but i guess girls like to keep hard all the time. mine needs few min after ejaculation to get 100% hard again. So its like a buzz killer. That said i feel i did smthg wrong, she was still warming up when i cum, so I guess I should have used my tongue a bit more since she doesnt like me using my fingures too much. Otherwise it really sucks for me bcz i would cum too fast even if multiple times but stopping each minute might be annoying to her. ---
**Author:** ![novel-indigo-meadowlark](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/novel-indigo-meadowlark/32/367632_2.png) [@novel-indigo-meadowlark](https://community.mymojo.com/u/novel-indigo-meadowlark)\ **Post date:** [August 10, 2025, 8:38pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/11 "2025-08-10T20:38:17Z")
Yes I’ve had this issue for years before and after mojo and felt it wasn’t really addressed fully by the program. I think it is a sort of trauma and avoidance strategy. I’m avoiding getting attached subconsciously due to growing up enmeshed with mother. I also tend to be focused on other people more than me and also don’t flip into fantasy very easily anymore. I am focused on the reality of bad smells, overly sensitive and uncomfortable areas, fears, and not wanting to be reenmeshed or abandoned by another partner, so I do the abandoning (not consciously like some sort of sociopath, thank you very much). ---
**Author:** ![ideal-fuchsia-gull](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7ab992/32.png) [@ideal-fuchsia-gull](https://community.mymojo.com/u/ideal-fuchsia-gull)\ **Post date:** [August 11, 2025, 1:44am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/can-t-cum-with-sex/10843/12 "2025-08-11T01:44:25Z")
It’s not really addressed, you’re right. We who can’t achieve climax with a partner are too rare to make money for Mojo and similar products, and yet our pain is very real. I have trouble with thinking and worrying whether I’m feeling the right things or whether I’m taking too long, our whether my partner really cares whether I cum or not. Most men seem to care more about their own satisfaction than they do their partner’s, and so often I just give up and please him and just accept that I’m not going to get to cum.