# Cant keep erection with my wife all of a sudden

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**Created:** [November 15, 2022, 3:54pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/cant-keep-erection-with-my-wife-all-of-a-sudden/4386 "2022-11-15T15:54:11Z")\
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**Author:** ![anon16951455](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/7993a0/32.png) [@anon16951455](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon16951455)\
**Post date:** [November 15, 2022, 3:54pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/cant-keep-erection-with-my-wife-all-of-a-sudden/4386/1 "2022-11-15T15:54:11Z")

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Im 33 year old male, married for 7 years, 3 kids. Sex was always great. Then my wife and I didnt have any sex for a year and a half after she got pregnant with our 3rd due to very difficult pregnancy and then about 8 months after due to stress, lack of sleep, breastfeeding etc. We recently started having regular intercourse again and I cant stay hard all of a sudden. Even when I get hard enough for penetration, I quickly get soft. Im very attracted to my wife and she looks incredible naked so this is extremely frustrating to say the least. Whenever were about to have sex now i can feel my heart start to race and I even start shaking sometimes. I guess im worried i wont give her the mindblowing sex that I want to. Could this sexual performance anxiety been possibly triggered by the long time without it? Can just more frequent sex cure this? I just signed up for mojo so im going to try it out and see what happens. Has anyone else had this happen after a long time without sex? Thanks a lot

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**Author:** ![qualified-coral-angelfish](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/qualified-coral-angelfish/32/232792_2.png) [@qualified-coral-angelfish](https://community.mymojo.com/u/qualified-coral-angelfish)\
**Post date:** [November 17, 2022, 9:20am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/cant-keep-erection-with-my-wife-all-of-a-sudden/4386/2 "2022-11-17T09:20:05Z")

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This happened to me, 20 year anniversary this year, shaking too. Same situation. Go through the exercises on this site. My doc also gave me a prescription for tadalafil which you can take and it lasts 24 hours to give you a boost. Box breathing helped with me, also realised I was gripping myself too tight when by myself which has caused issues. Hope this helps. Good luck. Talk it all through and be honest about your feelings and anxiety.