# Erection and infidelity

**URL:** <https://community.mymojo.com/t/erection-and-infidelity/5966>\
**Category:** 🍆 Erection issues\
**Created:** [May 11, 2024, 8:05am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/erection-and-infidelity/5966 "2024-05-11T08:05:38Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 3\
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**Author:** ![colourful-blue-pinniped](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/colourful-blue-pinniped/32/414518_2.png) [@colourful-blue-pinniped](https://community.mymojo.com/u/colourful-blue-pinniped)\
**Post date:** [May 11, 2024, 8:05am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/erection-and-infidelity/5966/1 "2024-05-11T08:05:39Z")

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Long story short: I cheated on my wife. The best loving supporting person I’ve known, the love of my life. Whom I’m unfortunately less and less attracted to sexually and who has a low libido herself. Have been on and off on Mojo, not super active, as I thought my psycho ED actually doesn’t exist, things generally work, just life is sometimes difficult 🙂

It was a one night stand with a hot girl, way hotter than my wife, and … no erection at all. She was super understanding, very active and even made me come twice w/o getting hard.

I feel I’ve just morally destroyed myself, particularly because I worry more about the ED than the cheating, which makes me feel even worse, like becoming a worse person and not having remorse

Oh, and I had flu for three days, and was weak afterwards - this could well be a huge factor too - but now who knows.

Was a very stupid idea to do this, double stupid when you are not sure you are feeling well.

Just venting here. Maybe someone was in a similar situation.

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**Author:** ![persistent-amaranth-chickadee](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/persistent-amaranth-chickadee/32/432794_2.png) [@persistent-amaranth-chickadee](https://community.mymojo.com/u/persistent-amaranth-chickadee)\
**Post date:** [May 12, 2024, 12:33pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/erection-and-infidelity/5966/2 "2024-05-12T12:33:35Z")

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Hey, I’m in the same boat. Have also made stupid decisions cheating on my ex partner and couldn’t get hard. But now that I’ve sorted the cheating behaviour with a psychologist, my ED issues have transferred over into my non-cheating life. The more it happens the more confidence you lose. But we’ll give this a go and see if it works hey!

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**Author:** ![colourful-blue-pinniped](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/colourful-blue-pinniped/32/414518_2.png) [@colourful-blue-pinniped](https://community.mymojo.com/u/colourful-blue-pinniped)\
**Post date:** [May 12, 2024, 12:52pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/erection-and-infidelity/5966/3 "2024-05-12T12:52:22Z")

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Thanks for your story @persistent. Do you think the cause of the failure is the fact of cheating itself and the related anxiety? Or is it just random?