I have spent the last 9 months after a breakup focusing on self improvement and being the best version of myself…and since then, I have had zero luck trying to get dates and meet women. I’m 42 years old and I feel like I’m going to stay single for the rest of my life. I finally get close to being the best version of myself and it’s like life is telling me I’m too late.
Don’t loose hope, you have been putting in the work that you’ve needed to do. You’ll be rewarded. Keep looking. Find a club/ organization out there, and network. She might be where you least expect.
Chin up mate.
It happens when you least expect it!
You’ll be fine.
42 is still young. Being that men are seen as success objects, and not aesthetic ones, our value remains intact for a while. That’s why you see older men with younger women. Women see us for what we do with our lives. Just continue in YOUR path.
At 42 I was going through my second divorce, had a kid and was feeling like “well that’s that, I’m going to be alone forever.”
Don’t rush the time bettering yourself, but make sure the REAL goal of doing it is for YOU, not anyone else. When you truly can sit and be happy/content with yourself, you will attract others, probably many you wish you didn’t! But the next right one will be in there too. Trusting time is the toughest part of it, but when you let go is often when it happens. I’m 55 now and have been with my current partner for over 12 years. Obviously there are things I need to work on as I am currently dealing with PED, but I have a partner that also has her own issues so we are patient with each other. Hang in there. I know it can be lonely but during this time, be proud of how far your comeback into yourself after dealing with the pain of a breakup. Some people wallow for a long while and you chose to get yourself back. This will be rewarded.