I recently started taking this girl out from my home town. We’ve been on a few “dates” movie, shopping, hiking, and I worry a lot about if she likes me, or if im saying the right things. How do I get out of my head and connect with girls. I have a fear of rejection so maybe this plays into it but I fear she doesnt like me because she thinks im boring or uninteresting or she can sense insecurity/lack of confidence. Im also stressed because I have interviews coming up and studying for an exam. (Im 22), ive had PE for my whole life, and mojo has been helping with desensitizing from porn, stop negative thoughts but im afraid I won’t be able to pull this girl.
These are really normal feelings for someone who is early into their dating life. I had the same I think all guys do. It sounds like you’re doing well you’ve hung out a few times. Just keep going with the flow and enjoying your time with her. Even if this one doesn’t work out you’re young and there will be others. So try to just enjoy it and go with the flow.
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As stated before, use the experience! They are doing the same thing you are. Trying to figure it out and navigate life/relationships and everything else…
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Why do you need to pull this girl? It sounds like you’ve set up a situation in your head where this girl is the reward, and you’re trying to do the right things to get her. As a result you’re worrying “Am I doing the right things?” Maybe approach the situation like if you pull this girl you pull this girl, if you don’t you don’t. Don’t think of yourself as the person trying to achieve something. Think of you as you, nobody is the reward, it’s just two people who if they pull, they pull. I’d say take a step back, control the situation. If you need to focus on exams, do so, then meet her after. Don’t feel you need to meet her when it could add pressure to other areas in your life and worse case scenario if it falls through because of that, it wasn’t meant to be in the first place. Then again if you do like her and want to meet her do so, but control that too, maybe by deciding if you feel the need to talk but have nothing to say, don’t say anything. Don’t do something you normally wouldn’t do just because you’re with her - that’s just my thoughts on the situation.
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