# Going down after holding in orgasm **URL:** \ **Category:** 🍆 Erection issues\ **Created:** [April 19, 2025, 8:53am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/going-down-after-holding-in-orgasm/9073 "2025-04-19T08:53:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![net-sapphire-catshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/ce7236/32.png) [@net-sapphire-catshark](https://community.mymojo.com/u/net-sapphire-catshark)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2025, 8:53am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/going-down-after-holding-in-orgasm/9073/1 "2025-04-19T08:53:58Z")
Whenever I have sex it is good until i get close to that point of no return. I sometimes get to it too quick and I want to go for longer so I hold it in. I get to the point where one more stroke will do it and i do hold it in. However I lose my erection after holding in my orgasm even if I didn’t ejaculate. What should I do?? ---
**Author:** ![crowded-magenta-cobra](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/crowded-magenta-cobra/32/481078_2.png) [@crowded-magenta-cobra](https://community.mymojo.com/u/crowded-magenta-cobra)\ **Post date:** [April 19, 2025, 4:36pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/going-down-after-holding-in-orgasm/9073/2 "2025-04-19T16:36:55Z")
I had a similar experience a couple of times. I was so hyper focused on premature ejaculation that I would lose my erection trying not to cum. So I just allowed myself to release even if it was only three or four strokes. The satisfaction of being able to have an erection and orgasm definitely helped me to get over PE. Although it still does happen to me sporadically I try not to focus on . Also have open conversation with with your girl about it. Typically they’re a lot more understanding than what we would suspect. And if they understand what’s going on they’ll be more app to allow you to work through it however your body needs to.