I was having a 4 some it was me and 3girls they wanted me to put on a show and I couldnāt do it for them and I think that hurt my confidence because I couldnāt stimulate them
I get hard but it doesnāt feel very hard, as if Iām not really hard in the first place
Same horny but not hard
Just joined. My biggest issue is that I can get hard, but canāt stay hard without actively touching my penis. I rarely get morning wood.
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To help and be transparent with others, I wanted to give an update on my journey. I have just completed phase 4 and moved on to phase 5.
I have implemented everything and so far, in particular the āre programme negative thoughtsā and āinner coachā. I noticed for the latest couple of days, the negative thoughts automatically getting shutdown by these techniques and the voices in my head were automatically telling me positive things.
However yesterday was both and interesting and horrific day. From this progress, the inner critic came out of no where and was extremely aggressive, like aggression Iāve never felt before! The techniques I discussed above battled against this and Iāve never over thought and been overwhelmed before. I went home after work and felt depressed like never before.
However!!! This morning I work up feeling amazing, feeling positive and feeling like the inner critic has backed down. Personally, I yesterday was a turning point where my negative core belief has changed, and due to such a direct change, my mind went into overload as it didnāt know what to think.
I am by no means 100%, I feel that I still need to work on things, but I feel that I have killed off the evil in my brain and now starting to build myself up bigger and stronger from scratch.
I dont feel 100%, because there is still a bit of doubt, and as theis new positive belief is now becoming core, my mind is trying to understand it and strengthen it.
Overall, I feel potive, more relaxed and less stressed in general. Still a good way to go, but I feel I have hit a great milestone
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Numerous serious health conditions with lots of meds (mainly with side effects that include sexual dysfunction), many bad relationships in the past, one sexual assault and my girlfriend moved to the Netherlands in December last year. I have a lot to fight against, but Iām trying.
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Inner voice is always there and feeling of numbness in my penis stopping me from staying hard or sometimes even getting hard
Been here for a week now but Iām not finding any help for delayed or non existent ejaculation.
I have quit porn, stopped masturbating and had sex about 7 or 8 times in the past few weeks but have failed to cum every time. Can you ever get your full penis sensitivity back after years of masturbating?
I am currently taking antidepressants and I think this is the main culprit.
Anyone else here have the same issue?
I didnāt lose my virginity until I started dating my now wife at 23 and weāve been together 10 years. Iāve always had some anxieties about performance as she has had more experience than me, but we generally had pretty good and frequent sex until we started doing long distance. We started living together again about 5 years ago and our sex lives always kinda felt out of sync, hard to get back what we used to have. She has a preference of having sex on the weekend due to work stresses etc, typically in the afternoon, but it often means that there is some pressure to perform as that is typically best for her. In the past year, I have really struggled with delayed ejaculation or I would suddenly get anxious and doubt that it is pleasurable for her if Iām taking longer. So I would tend to go into it questioning my ability and whether this was good for her. I started using mojo about 2 months ago and was open about it with her. I found the therapist sessions really helpful in addition to the courses, and this community. It became easier to get out of my head and enjoy the moment more. It was also good to hear that it is totally normal to not always perform at the drop of a hat. I never really talk about sex with friends, so typically assume that everybody is having great and lots of sex, but realized this is likely far from the truth. Anyways, the past 5 times we have had sex, it has been great like it was in the first year of our relationship. I havenāt had trouble finishing and Iām feeling so much better for it. Now I donāt even think about it and we can enjoy it. I would definitely suggest being open about it when using this app. It has helped me a lot
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not being able to cum from head is completely normal, especially the first time. donāt beat urself up abt it
Gawd. I sure hope soā¦ā¦
Antidepressants can cause a lot of this. But so does being depressed and/or anxious. Maybe talk to your doctor about a different type, but donāt do anything without their supervision.
On the lack of sensitivity, I canāt answer if youāll get it totally back, but Iāve had some small successes in the last couple of weeks. I realized I could feel almost nothing and it was freaking me out. Took some advice about how porn and overfocusing on partner leads to losing those mind/body connections. Cut porn out, stopped using fantasy (itās dissociating your body from the present), and started doing mindful masturbation. Starting getting anxious during sex recently, reminded myself to only focus on what I was sensing and feeling and had the most feeling Iād had having sex in years! Not like before, but way more than Iād felt since I can remember. I donāt think fantasy is a bad thing, but for me at least I obviously need to remake those mind/body connections. Iām taking the win and hopeful it continues. Good luck, man!
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Hey I have the same issue of not being able to go round 2. How are you doing now?