How do you plan to simmer?

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Thinking

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I have a date on Saturday with a woman I am newly-seeing. I have tentatively booked a hotel but haven’t told her. She is keen and I am monitoring my performance anxiety on the day.

I plan to meet her with a passionate kiss. Compliment the parts of her that turn me on. Put my hands on her when opportune. Pull her in close when I kiss her. Tell her how good she smells. Stroke her back underneath her top.

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I feel like I do this all the time. I also feel that is not always welcome or reciprocated. That becomes frustrating and is a huge cause of anxiety that I know is a root of my performance issues.

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Long kisses, compliments, naughty spanks, a hot text message… many things and many ideas…

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She bit her lip when we were on a date… In a sexy way, drove me wild!

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Touch is my main love language and my partner loves when I rub the small of there back and I love how they lean into my hand.

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Running a finger down a shoulder, or holding eye contact for about a second or more then smiling and maybe then looking away.

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Exchange of memories of being close and together and feeling loved

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Holding eye contact, sending flirty messages, holding them close

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Being single it’s people watching, imagining what she’s like naked as you walk past them… dirty perv? Maybe

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Already doing this..she doesn’t

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I kind of feel we’re already doing this naturally in our relationship. But will try step it up another level if there’s a chance it can boost my libido

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I’m trying to do this solo

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Getting dressed in front of him, texting, compliments here and there. More of playful touching, etc.

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Make them feel turned on and good about themselves

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I feel like I do some of these things but she hasn’t been comfortable enough to reciprocate. But I know she’s been going through a lot recently.

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I feel a lot of you would be able to resonate with me on this. After watching the video of simmering I realised that I had backed off as I was anxious it would lead to sex. I need to embrace simmering and not be so hard on myself as my partner is very much understanding

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Massages, hugs, kisses hold hands together

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My challenge with simmering is it builds the desire but until I resolve my ability to get erect during four player sex it seems like it would build a false expectations and lead to another letdown

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Just simmer, thats all, if it builds up to sex then yes do it but if not, keep simmering