I guess that my trigger would be the transition from foreplay to sex, worrying that I’m going to finish too soon from foreplay
Letting myself fall into the experience, decoupling from my expectations
The moment it’s time for penetration, I think am I doing this right and tend to go soft from there.
My trigger is putting on lube, where I think am I going to stay hard enough. So maybe I need to go back to something else at that point
My trigger is when I am erect and wonder if I can keep hard… Then it goes and I can’t keep the erection
My trigger is going from foreplay to sex and thinking am I going to be able to stay hard. Also if im receiving oral and thinking why am I not getting hard yet and if im giving oral thinking why can’t I stay hard while giving.
My trigger is the initial touching and making out, that I know will lead to intimacy. I then get in my head that I should already be hard and need to stay hard for my girlfriend. My grounding moment is ironically connection, and how much I love our chemistry.
Yes the feeling starts during the foreplay when I start out hard but when we are going to initiate then start wondering if I can stay hard and I check it then .
The feeling starts when if I notice no response to physical touch which becomes a self fulfilling
This starts when I notice I am not getting hard when making out. I’ll give it more time, but if it doesn’t improve, I feel like there is no hope.
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Eye opening. I like the focus redirection
It’s good to know now, I’ll probably use it when starting to make out, and during the transition from just kissing to more.
I’ll use it the next time I’m in a situation where my partner and I are joining someone else for a sexual encounter
I want to try that in a live situation to see it work
I feel like my trigger is often the anticipation before sex, and during the foreplay feeling like Im already doomed to not being able to stay hard. I’ll try to ground before and during foreplay
My trigger is usually either when I am inside and the immediate fear that it will go away and I won’t be able to sustain, and then especially for she wants to be on top… that position is hopeless for me, sucks because I want to experience it and so does she. I can’t just enjoy the moment, and if I am, I will catch myself enjoying it and immediately be afraid I will ruin everything for both of us by not getting, or staying, hard. I’m 45 and this has been happening my whole life since 15.