Next time we have sex
During foreplay before sex, I’m worried I’m not gonna be able to be hard for long enough
When making out, I’ll notice that I’m worried about if I’m attractive and what will come next. I’ll try to take a breath and instead focus on the connection and the fact that we’re both excited.
When I know I’m about to have sex I’ll notice that I’ve left my body and try to relax my belly and think this is a shared experience
I think this practice is a good way to start understanding where I get triggered before losing my erection. I’m still going to need more practice, but learning to focus on the pleasure cue can hopefully help me take my mind away from stress and more on my sensation of my partner’s touch.
Forplay. As soon as I start focusing on my erection. Bring it back to her. To the pleasure
When I first have an erection my mind drifts into a thought “What if this is not arousing me? Think of something; a fantasy or I am going to lose it “ from now on, I shall aim to focus on relaxing the belly and focus on the sensations of my body,
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My mind drifts into is this gonna happen again? Breath . Feel her leg and thigh.breath. Let’s enjoy.
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When I’m inside her using a condom I feel like my sensitivity is weaker and I can’t really feel my penis. I then worry that I’m going to lose my erection… And then I do.
I wasn’t aware that the worrying itself is such a big issue
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This made me more anxious. There is no cue. I start, I want to have sex, there is no thought or feeling or anything . No cue. Suddenly I start losing it. Being told there should be some cue some thought some feeling just has me worse. Thanks for nothing.
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Same here I get excited but when it comes to sex I just loose it and just makes it worse from there in my head
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I have seen some people are so rock hard wonder how they maintain that
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Foreplay.
Dont monitor. Deep breath in, exhale longer and relax my shoulders. Focus on pace and slow things down. Touch her leg and touch her thighs.
When I meet with my partner next
It’s always doubt before we do it that then spirals into the monitoring
When I next have sex with my partner and kiss her!
Next i notice myself checking in on how hard i am
Tonight, when we sit in bed and try to connect at the end of a busy day.
during foreplay, just focusing on grounding myself in the moment and not worrying
During those initial touches when my partner reaches towards my crotch