# I can’t cum with sex. I have to masturbate

**URL:** <https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-can-t-cum-with-sex-i-have-to-masturbate/6084>\
**Category:** ⏳ Delayed ejaculation\
**Created:** [May 22, 2024, 6:31pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-can-t-cum-with-sex-i-have-to-masturbate/6084 "2024-05-22T18:31:00Z")\
**Posts on this page:** 4\
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**Author:** ![running-turquoise-cat](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/running-turquoise-cat/32/436454_2.png) [@running-turquoise-cat](https://community.mymojo.com/u/running-turquoise-cat)\
**Post date:** [May 22, 2024, 6:31pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-can-t-cum-with-sex-i-have-to-masturbate/6084/1 "2024-05-22T18:31:00Z")

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The only way I lose it is masturbating looking at my wife. Or pretending like I did lose it and then masturbating later. I also have an issue losing my erection during intercourse. It makes me feel like I am a total loser and has made it not very fun and she has complained.

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**Author:** ![natural-peach-felidae](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/natural-peach-felidae/32/436774_2.png) [@natural-peach-felidae](https://community.mymojo.com/u/natural-peach-felidae)\
**Post date:** [May 22, 2024, 11:43pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-can-t-cum-with-sex-i-have-to-masturbate/6084/2 "2024-05-22T23:43:54Z")

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I have the same issues, I RARELY can finish during sex, and I loose my erection pretty easily, not every-time but it’s becoming more frequent.

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**Author:** ![misty-blush-seahorse](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/misty-blush-seahorse/32/436642_2.png) [@misty-blush-seahorse](https://community.mymojo.com/u/misty-blush-seahorse)\
**Post date:** [May 23, 2024, 3:22pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-can-t-cum-with-sex-i-have-to-masturbate/6084/3 "2024-05-23T15:22:29Z")

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Yes me too. I haven’t cum during intercourse in a while now. The first year in my relationship was great. But now I’m In our 3rd year, sex Has gotten challenging.

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**Author:** ![anon69974338](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/d6d6ee/32.png) [@anon69974338](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon69974338)\
**Post date:** [May 23, 2024, 6:28pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-can-t-cum-with-sex-i-have-to-masturbate/6084/4 "2024-05-23T18:28:53Z")

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I sometimes have that issue. I believe it’s 100% mental for me. I go back and revisit some of the lessons from this app that help me “be in the moment” and they do help. Also sometimes I’ll treat myself to a euphoria marijuana gummy (they are legal here) and they take sex to a whole other level. When I take one it frees my mind up I think. I never have trouble finishing or of any kind and it feels spectacular.