# I’m a grower, not a shower **URL:** \ **Category:** 👁️ Body image\ **Created:** [August 26, 2024, 1:33am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213 "2024-08-26T01:33:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![previous-tomato-shrimp](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/previous-tomato-shrimp/32/480780_2.png) [@previous-tomato-shrimp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/previous-tomato-shrimp)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2024, 1:33am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/1 "2024-08-26T01:33:00Z")
When I have sex, I often find the initial preview of my soft dick can be quite off putting because during the heat I can be an easy 2-3 inch’s but when I’m erect I’m like 6 inches I’m always worried what a girl is going to think when she sees me soft, so many concerns go through my head even though when I’m erect, the girls are happy with my girth and size, how do you deal with that initial show? ---
**Author:** ![medieval-white-ladybug](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/medieval-white-ladybug/32/477107_2.png) [@medieval-white-ladybug](https://community.mymojo.com/u/medieval-white-ladybug)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2024, 3:10am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/2 "2024-08-26T03:10:01Z")
Thanks for sharing, I have this exact same issue, and exact same sizes haha. I’ve been trying to spend more time naked alone (just walking around in my house etc.) in order to feel more comfortable - might be helping me slightly but hard to say. I felt this way even after having been with an ex for a yea recently, so it’s a tough one. But I’m hoping that with someone I truly love and feel comfortable around it’ll be less of an issue ---
**Author:** ![compatible-purple-squid](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/compatible-purple-squid/32/438406_2.png) [@compatible-purple-squid](https://community.mymojo.com/u/compatible-purple-squid)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2024, 5:56am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/3 "2024-08-26T05:56:32Z")
I’m like that and while I do feel weird about my size, I try to be comfortable with my body. I go to nudist places when I can and just realize that normal people have all sorts of sizes, and that most people don’t care. Porn makes us think every one has a huge dick, and sure, some guys are massive, but there’s a lot of diversity and we should learn to live with what we have. ---
**Author:** ![previous-tomato-shrimp](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/previous-tomato-shrimp/32/480780_2.png) [@previous-tomato-shrimp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/previous-tomato-shrimp)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2024, 11:33am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/4 "2024-08-26T11:33:22Z")
When I’m with someone, and they know what size I get to and they’re happy with it, it reduces my anxiety significantly, but once they see your size and are happy with it, it does make it easier, it’s just the initial time, trying to be more confident about it ---
**Author:** ![previous-tomato-shrimp](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/previous-tomato-shrimp/32/480780_2.png) [@previous-tomato-shrimp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/previous-tomato-shrimp)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2024, 11:35am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/5 "2024-08-26T11:35:02Z")
It’s crazy because porn really makes us feel conscious of it thinking out penis’ aren’t as big as theirs 😂 a nudist place? where do you even find those? I’m in UK I don’t think they have them hete ---
**Author:** ![breezy-crimson-stoat](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/breezy-crimson-stoat/32/405843_2.png) [@breezy-crimson-stoat](https://community.mymojo.com/u/breezy-crimson-stoat)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2024, 1:54pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/6 "2024-08-26T13:54:35Z")
How about trying the “simmering” during the day before getting it on. I means you’re not starting from ground zero, as it were. Maybe lay off the tight undies as well… ---
**Author:** ![welcome-green-mouse](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/welcome-green-mouse/32/395527_2.png) [@welcome-green-mouse](https://community.mymojo.com/u/welcome-green-mouse)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2024, 1:56pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/7 "2024-08-26T13:56:34Z")
Botox has actually been used to help growers! Helps relax the muscles that cause contractions and increase hanging length. Not everyone knows how to do it though a this is a specialized skill so find a legitimate provider. It can be expensive as well. ---
**Author:** ![applicable-peach-antlion](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/applicable-peach-antlion/32/475229_2.png) [@applicable-peach-antlion](https://community.mymojo.com/u/applicable-peach-antlion)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2024, 2:46pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/8 "2024-08-26T14:46:49Z")
I understand this issue as well. I am actually a good size erect (about 7.5 inches) but when it is soft I feel very uncomfortable since I think it looks small and I am 6’3. I go to clothing optional places but always find myself trying to fluff it just to make it a bit more plump. I wish I felt comfortable in my own skin. I know everyone varies in size and nothing that a person can realistically do to change that but difficult convincing myself to be self-confident. ---
**Author:** ![shocked-silver-barracuda](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/shocked-silver-barracuda/32/482062_2.png) [@shocked-silver-barracuda](https://community.mymojo.com/u/shocked-silver-barracuda)\ **Post date:** [August 26, 2024, 4:28pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/9 "2024-08-26T16:28:27Z")
I’ve Always Been told I Have a Great Size Penis, and Never Really have had a Bad Comment on its size and I have this Same issue as well when I’m Soft I Hate How small it looks and I’m trying to be more comfortable with it because I know when I’m fully erect I’m 6.5 and Thick but it’s sometimes can be a bit to Hard to get over and I overthink often. ---
**Author:** ![previous-tomato-shrimp](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/previous-tomato-shrimp/32/480780_2.png) [@previous-tomato-shrimp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/previous-tomato-shrimp)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2024, 12:53am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/10 "2024-08-27T00:53:07Z")
I hear it, as I said women are always happy with my size so there’s no reason for me to really be worried but it’s that sight of the really soft penis After sex I often look at my then soft penis and my partner has seen the erect penis yet I’m conscious of my flaccid look because it doesn’t look as sexy lol ---
**Author:** ![previous-tomato-shrimp](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/previous-tomato-shrimp/32/480780_2.png) [@previous-tomato-shrimp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/previous-tomato-shrimp)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2024, 12:54am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/11 "2024-08-27T00:54:22Z")
Interestinggggg however I’m very conscious of the effects of anything on my penis, to the point where I got worried at first when I started gymming because of how tiny my penis would become but it’s actually natural so yeah I’m curious but dubious ---
**Author:** ![previous-tomato-shrimp](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/previous-tomato-shrimp/32/480780_2.png) [@previous-tomato-shrimp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/previous-tomato-shrimp)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2024, 12:55am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/12 "2024-08-27T00:55:02Z")
Where are these exercises, I can’t seem to find them ---
**Author:** ![previous-tomato-shrimp](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/previous-tomato-shrimp/32/480780_2.png) [@previous-tomato-shrimp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/previous-tomato-shrimp)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2024, 12:55am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/13 "2024-08-27T00:55:47Z")
aaah man that’s a struggle but nice package you got, it’s crazy because our egos regarding our package are fed to us by our partners so idk how to work on my self confidence regarding that 😂 ---
**Author:** ![welcome-green-mouse](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/welcome-green-mouse/32/395527_2.png) [@welcome-green-mouse](https://community.mymojo.com/u/welcome-green-mouse)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2024, 2:27am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/14 "2024-08-27T02:27:15Z")
I’m biased because I’m an injector LOL but it works pretty well for some people! ---
**Author:** ![subtle-sapphire-tiglon](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/subtle-sapphire-tiglon/32/477140_2.png) [@subtle-sapphire-tiglon](https://community.mymojo.com/u/subtle-sapphire-tiglon)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2024, 8:00pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/15 "2024-08-27T20:00:07Z")
Same here, it’s like a turtlehead when soft, but 6.25” when erect. Average is apparently somewhere around 5 inches or so erect. I think a lot of us have body dysmorphia. Team that up with every kid in middle school saying they are packing 8”, plus consuming porn with men in the top 5% and you quickly can start to see how skewed your vision of yourself can be. ---
**Author:** ![breezy-crimson-stoat](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/breezy-crimson-stoat/32/405843_2.png) [@breezy-crimson-stoat](https://community.mymojo.com/u/breezy-crimson-stoat)\ **Post date:** [August 27, 2024, 8:58pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/16 "2024-08-27T20:58:01Z")
I can’t remember exactly where, but it was, quite early in the course. It was a concept where you take a little more sexual interest in your partner… kind of throughout the day… or the evening before you have sex… I’m not doing a great job of explaining this… Maybe touching or cuddling, as part of your normal interaction. I think the idea is to keep yourself slightly aroused, and at the same time…make your partner feel wanted… I also think it means you take a bit more control of your own situation… and face your anxiety…. little and often. Again, I’m not sure if I’m explaining it well enough. I suppose it keeps you “a bit” horny and ready to go. One more thing, I know it’s better not to use pills, but I feel Cialis adds a bit of “heft” to the little fella… even before the action really starts… someone else I know who uses Cialis made the same comment. Good luck. ---
**Author:** ![definite-maroon-wolverine](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/definite-maroon-wolverine/32/410958_2.png) [@definite-maroon-wolverine](https://community.mymojo.com/u/definite-maroon-wolverine)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2024, 2:43am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/17 "2024-08-28T02:43:47Z")
Same here. I also take TRT so my smaller testicles makes my softer self look even smaller. It’s tough mentally ---
**Author:** ![recent-brown-antlion](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/recent-brown-antlion/32/482629_2.png) [@recent-brown-antlion](https://community.mymojo.com/u/recent-brown-antlion)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2024, 1:52pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/18 "2024-08-28T13:52:19Z")
I think a lot of women appreciate that flaccid cocks don’t reflect much… I mean, it may help to get a semi before you strip I guess? We can focus too much on being big - but it’s what we do with it … ---
**Author:** ![bright-beige-lark](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/bright-beige-lark/32/439470_2.png) [@bright-beige-lark](https://community.mymojo.com/u/bright-beige-lark)\ **Post date:** [August 28, 2024, 9:56pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/19 "2024-08-28T21:56:55Z")
This is me! I so small soft and slightly above average when hard. No one has ever had a problem with me hard but I’m so embarrassed about the size of my dick soft that I struggle to get hard in the first place from the amount of overthinking ---
**Author:** ![previous-tomato-shrimp](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/previous-tomato-shrimp/32/480780_2.png) [@previous-tomato-shrimp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/previous-tomato-shrimp)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2024, 1:20am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213/20 "2024-08-29T01:20:17Z")
it’s crazy that even while typing my message I was thinking well what’s the issue is girls have never complained but I guess we just don’t feel sexy with our small soft dick 😂😂 [Next page](https://community.mymojo.com/t/i-m-a-grower-not-a-shower/7213.md?page=2)