# Losing erection b4 penetration **URL:** \ **Category:** 🍆 Erection issues\ **Created:** [October 24, 2024, 9:07pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/losing-erection-b4-penetration/7870 "2024-10-24T21:07:56Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 2\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![academic-moccasin-llama](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e495f1/32.png) [@academic-moccasin-llama](https://community.mymojo.com/u/academic-moccasin-llama)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2024, 9:07pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/losing-erection-b4-penetration/7870/1 "2024-10-24T21:07:57Z")
24 y/o and queer, primarily am the top in sexual situations. i definitely have some sexual trauma combined with mental health struggles (meds make sex more difficult for sure haha)… BUT, while I’m able to get hard and stay hard for other sexual activities, as soon as I try to top someone I lose my erection completely. My mind starts racing, I’ll feel horribly anxious— it’s so emasculating and frustrating. anyone relate to this? and how have you worked on it? i’m honestly surprised by how much this has impacted my self worth. it sucks to now feel like i can’t have sex, even though my drive is still high. ---
**Author:** ![influential-crimson-pheasant](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/influential-crimson-pheasant/32/432515_2.png) [@influential-crimson-pheasant](https://community.mymojo.com/u/influential-crimson-pheasant)\ **Post date:** [October 24, 2024, 11:01pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/losing-erection-b4-penetration/7870/2 "2024-10-24T23:01:31Z")
Sorry to hear this. I can’t ever get hard enough to top. I only get really hard seconds before orgasm which is not long enough for penetration. I’ve succumbed to the fact that masturbation and/or receiving a blow job is all that I’ll ever be able to do.