So, I find it easier to get to the point of no return with my hand when with a partner. If I’m lucky, I can get myself right before at the edge and put it in inside so we both can feel when I cum and the contractions, or hand it off to her so she can finish me off with ease. Otherwise I just finish myself on her. For whatever reason I still rely on my hand being integrated at the point I want to cum.
I have been experimenting my auto erotica behaviors almost exclusively with a flesh-light/pocket-pussy to get used to cumming with a different lubed sensation than my hand, but still have a ways to rely on my hand less and less as part of the process, I guess.
Anyway, I was struggling focusing to make it happen. But then I was trying to imagine how hot it will be when I explode all over her, and it helped get me there. Has anyone else found that picturing yourself cumming and how hot that is helped with getting yourself to cum when with your partner?
Anyway, it’s a weird realization and I’ll have to explore more. Like visualizing how hot visually it’ll be to see me explode all over her, and/or visualizing the sensation of the explosive contractions that feel so good, etc.