Two nights ago, my wife and I had sex for the first time in months. I made use of box breathing ahead, but still had some doubts about myself. I told my wife I wanted to start trying to be intimate “tomorrow morning,” as I thought we were both too tired to try.
My wife suggested we try right then, “but no pressure, if it works it works, and if it doesn’t it doesn’t and is ok.” She knows I’ve been working with this app.
I was actually able to enjoy foreplay, which I haven’t for years without feeling overwhelmed. I was able to keep my head into how she was feeling going down on her, and then go on to intercourse without loosing my erection! It’s been years since I didn’t go soft during intercourse before the “finish.”
She was able to cum during intercourse, but I still couldn’t I enjoyed it, but couldn’t cum, and was at risking of losing my erection again. For years, I’ve only been able to cum during sex in my wife’s hands. Her hands are injured from work, but she suggested I try getting off with my own hand while she helped with other physical stimulation. I was able to cum that way, and I have never been able to orgasm through masturbation in front of my wife before!
There is still work to do, like being able to get out of my head enough to reach orgasm during sex (intercourse or oral), but this was a definite win and improvement!
