Thank you. Fingers crossed 
If it works and you both like it thatās all that matters. I personally would want to be there but I can see how it adds to the thrill for you to mainly wait and imagine what happens
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Fingers crossed! We are really looking forward to it - so I hope so
I personally would love to watch my girl have some fun lol
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Something similar happened to me. I have ED problems. Iām 30. And if I do her hard, I cum as soon as I enter. Maybe 2-3 pumps. And Iām not the biggest. My gf and I love each other deeply. But her ex has a pretty big dick thatās her type and he can make her cum. I never have been able to. So if heās in town (heās in the army) I let her have fun with him. He usually comes over. I watch a lot but sometimes I donāt and I just leave them to it and jerk off later. It takes the pressure off of me having to please her so when I fuck her after, itās just about my pleasure since sheās had hers. Itās liberating. Hasnāt directly helped with me my erections or premature ejaculation, but lets me focus on me and she gets her pleasure.
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We did it as soon as she got home both times. She didnāt orgasm these first times, we assume because she recently had with her ex. I came quite quickly, but I think because I was excited, not because of any PE problems.
I have met her ex a couple of times socially and Iām sure we will meet again; he lives some distance away. But unlikely I will meet him when/if he sees her again for sex. The assumption is, if they do, either he will come to ours if Iām away, she will go to his, or they will meet in a hotel, especially if he is working near us again. My wife still has a large circle of old friends in her home town where he still lives and she has already said she would be happy to stay at his when she visits there next next. He is currently single.
It is really fun and quite sexy to see her and be with her when she first comes home. I think watching would be too much for me, she would feel uncomfortable and Iām guessing he just wants her, not me tagging along. So a definite no-no.
They were real sweethearts and have remained fond of each other. She is very mindful of his feelings and is managing his expectations. He was not looking to rekindle their sex life, that was my idea. And she will not go with him when he is seeing someone else and is not encouraging him to stay single so she can have sex with him. It is very much as/when/if the opportunity arises.
Iām not an especially open person with worries and health/performance situations. It has/is doing me good to talk. Thanks
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Yeah I canāt deny I commonly fantasize about double penetrating my gf with another guy but I know Iād likely have anxiety and be unable to get hard but I also commonly fantasize about watching her take another guys dick.
I believe that is quite a common fantasy/porn search. That is not exactly where we are.
ED has made our sex life strained and formulaic. We are very much in love and both enjoy sex with each other. We both want to satisfy each other and be satisfied.
Her ex is a previous soulmate with some resonation. Heās obviously a good guy, although they werenāt talking when I first met her.
Anyway, weāve talked about it and are all enjoying a wholesome sex life - admittedly with her at the centre.
She wonāt talk about this specifically, but I suspect she can enjoy a night with him ā¦ with less constraints than with me at the moment.
Win-win-win!
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Despite that it hasnāt necessarily helped with your ed or premature ejaculation, do you prefer sex with her more after sheās been with him?
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Generally we both enjoy sex with each other. The ED has been bubbling away for a few years. But a good question and I need to monitor it. Weāve definitely had better sex since she slept with him. And when she first got home we immediately had sex. So I guess yes, sex is more exciting for me immediately after she has been with him.
But itās also perked our whole sex life. She has always spoken to him and chatted on FB, but now I find it quite erotic when they are in contact.
I found the build up to her meeting him was quite erotic as well, especially the second time when we both knew she should stay over.
She is going back to her home town later this month for a friendās party. I had agreed to go, but since have suggested she go with the ex (he would probably have gone himself anyway) and stay at his. She has agreed in principle although has not spoken to him yet. But even her agreeing gave us a boost again, spicing things up.
So, a shorter answer is: Yes we are both enjoying better and more sex generally since she slept with him, but especially soon after.
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Interesting stuff but it would give me really bad trust issues. Say her ex gets with someone else and all of this stops.. what then? Will she be looking for hook ups away from you with random guys? Would you let her?
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Absolutely and I donāt disagree. It certainly isnāt relationship advice, just sharing our story. My guess is they may see each other another few times only.
It wasnāt my wifeās idea and I donāt believe she would stray outside of this situation. She is very relaxed with her ex, but I donāt believe she will go off randomly with other guys.
She is away with him this weekend. Really looking forward to having her home on Monday.
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Again Iām not suggesting this for anyone else ā¦ But it was lovely picking my wife up from the station and I couldnāt wait to get her home. Once in bed I lost my erection part way through, but she teased me a bit about her weekend and it so came back 90%.
She is ready to stop our little experiment now, but we will miss the fun
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Bro if it helps you your girlfriend can stay with me too 
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Very kind of you to offer 
I think she is happy spending a little time with her ex 
This seems like an alternate version of porn to me. Like watching an imaginary scene that you donāt watch but knowing it took place. Perhaps I could understand the first time but I donāt know where this is going or what the end goal is. My advice to her would be to stay with her ex who you say has a connection and can fuck here well. Respectfully this is just a bit wild or far out there
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We are absolutely committed to each other and she is very supportive regarding the ED. It was my idea she let her hair down with the ex, which we now think has run its course. It is exciting and there is a sense of reclaiming her, which we both enjoy. But I donāt think it feels like a hot wife kink fantasy - nothing like that.
I guess I havenāt managed to explain it very well. Itās like we are spicing things up, being a bit reckless and naughty, but without pressure on me to perform.
Iām really not looking to pimp her out and she isnāt looking to leave me, go back with the ex, or start putting it out. We donāt regret it
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