# Staying hard and softening before orgasm **URL:** \ **Category:** Uncategorized\ **Created:** [April 29, 2022, 11:58am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/staying-hard-and-softening-before-orgasm/2874 "2022-04-29T11:58:07Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 5\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![fast-amber-ape](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/fast-amber-ape/32/329027_2.png) [@fast-amber-ape](https://community.mymojo.com/u/fast-amber-ape)\ **Post date:** [April 29, 2022, 11:58am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/staying-hard-and-softening-before-orgasm/2874/1 "2022-04-29T11:58:07Z")
So I can get hard (and I mean hard) before sex. I always start off well but then I find myself focussing in how hard my penis is rather then enjoying the moment. The more I focus then it invariably starts to soften and then the issues begin. I then end up making excuses about not finishing. Also I often go semi soft before I know I’m going to cum. Can anyone relate? ---
**Author:** ![graceful-crimson-hyena](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/graceful-crimson-hyena/32/333646_2.png) [@graceful-crimson-hyena](https://community.mymojo.com/u/graceful-crimson-hyena)\ **Post date:** [May 1, 2022, 7:07pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/staying-hard-and-softening-before-orgasm/2874/2 "2022-05-01T19:07:58Z")
I have very similar problem. During sex, when I feel it is getting soft I try to finish fast. At least for me personally it is less embarassing to make it short than to quit without cumming. I tend to have same problem when masturbating, I can keep it hard when going gently, but when I start to finish it off with strong strokes it tends to soften. Not so much issue with masturbating, as it is possible to finish and cum with softened penis. I cannot be sure if this is physical or psychological problem. It is just so consistent that I think it is probably both. ---
**Author:** ![intermediate-indigo-shark](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/intermediate-indigo-shark/32/310117_2.png) [@intermediate-indigo-shark](https://community.mymojo.com/u/intermediate-indigo-shark)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2022, 2:51am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/staying-hard-and-softening-before-orgasm/2874/3 "2022-05-11T02:51:40Z")
I have the same problem while masturbating, when I first get hard it’s 100% hard but after a little while I’ll get a tad bit softer and then it takes me over mentally to the point where I either cum not at full hardness or get soft compeltely and don’t cum. I’m sure it’s psychological so you don’t need to worry. I’ve been practicing by relaxing before I masturbate and closing my eyes and imagining to keep my mind off of what my penis is doing. ---
**Author:** ![anon65469414](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/fbc32d/32.png) [@anon65469414](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon65469414)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2022, 6:41pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/staying-hard-and-softening-before-orgasm/2874/4 "2022-05-24T18:41:54Z")
I have the same issue. I also feel like when it goes soft, I try to force myself to cum and it doesn’t feel anywhere near as good, but I still feel the physical urge to cum. I feel like since my ED issues began, I’ve sort of lost the sensations in my penis a bit. ---
**Author:** ![anon74366847](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c57346/32.png) [@anon74366847](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon74366847)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2022, 12:34am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/staying-hard-and-softening-before-orgasm/2874/5 "2022-05-26T00:34:59Z")
Couldn’t agree more when I am worried about going soft I try to go hard and fast and finish up to cum! As worried if I don’t cum my wife thinks I am not enjoying it I am so focused on getting hard and staying hard I don’t get into sex I’ve just bought Viagra and going to try tonight to see if takes my anxiety away ! Hoping I need to take it a couple of times to get my confidence back I won’t to make love to my wife but get worrried about performing