I’ve been with my girlfriend now for just over a year. Still haven’t had sex. First it was issues with erections. That seem to sort itself out once I got comfortable. We both do oral sex and hand stuff together but still not sex. I’m 27 btw. I admit I’m a virgin when it comes to penetration. Had experience with everything else. Sounds embarrassing I know. I’m constantly focused on my erection when I’m the moment, and I either get too excited or worry too much and don’t get hard enough. It’s eating me up. I love my girlfriend and she loves me but I’m worried I can never have a future with her with how I am. Has anyone felt like this and felt more confident and bettered their anxiety and nerves to having sex?
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You have to just go for it and try again and again. Try to have sex at least once a week. There is also a technique I have recently come across called “soft penetration”, where you enter with a soft or semihard penis and then upon thrusting it might get hard. It works, but it is not easy. Lube helps.