# The fight mind focus

**URL:** <https://community.mymojo.com/t/the-fight-mind-focus/4333>\
**Category:** 🍆 Erection issues\
**Tags:** performance-anxiety\
**Created:** [October 27, 2022, 8:03pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/the-fight-mind-focus/4333 "2022-10-27T20:03:08Z")\
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**Author:** ![anon62991919](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c77e96/32.png) [@anon62991919](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon62991919)\
**Post date:** [October 27, 2022, 8:03pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/the-fight-mind-focus/4333/1 "2022-10-27T20:03:08Z")

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I understand that my mind should ideally be on the experience not on spectatoring, but sometimes when I do this I feel I’m “trying too hard” to make myself hot my oversexualizing the experience in my mind, which makes it less hot.

I think back to times where I’m not anxious and get an erection easily (usually once I’ve been dating a girl for a while) and I don’t need to focus hard on the situation, it just happens. But I recognise that to distract from the inner critic I need some kind of focus.

Has anyone dealt with something similar? In short, I don’t wanna focus too hard on the situation to force it to seem hot, and I don’t want to focus on inner critic.

Thanks 🙂