# To what extent are sexual fantasies part of your life and relationships? **URL:** \ **Category:** ❓ Course questions\ **Tags:** couples\ **Created:** [September 7, 2022, 4:39pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322 "2022-09-07T16:39:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![various-blue-tern](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/various-blue-tern/32/302347_2.png) [@various-blue-tern](https://community.mymojo.com/u/various-blue-tern)\ **Post date:** [March 28, 2023, 6:05pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/41 "2023-03-28T18:05:58Z")
fantasy hasn’t been a huge part of my experience with my long term partner. I plan to work on banking some fantasies to have ready when I need them. ---
**Author:** ![far-violet-herring](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/far-violet-herring/32/237195_2.png) [@far-violet-herring](https://community.mymojo.com/u/far-violet-herring)\ **Post date:** [March 29, 2023, 5:29pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/42 "2023-03-29T17:29:47Z")
My partner and I like to use dirty talk which includes fantasies. She has also said that she wants to play out my fantasies with her. I am excited I just need the confidence to start having sex so we can do some of these, but I also understand that it can be good to keep some fantasies private precisely because it gives them more arousal ability for me. ---
**Author:** ![salty-teal-xerinae](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/salty-teal-xerinae/32/287724_2.png) [@salty-teal-xerinae](https://community.mymojo.com/u/salty-teal-xerinae)\ **Post date:** [April 2, 2023, 11:11pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/43 "2023-04-02T23:11:47Z")
I also feel like I’m addicted to very unique fantasies that hinder my ability to see excitement in vanilla sex. And these fantasies are, sort of in a way, not doable in real life ---
**Author:** ![rare-crimson-mongoose](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/rare-crimson-mongoose/32/201469_2.png) [@rare-crimson-mongoose](https://community.mymojo.com/u/rare-crimson-mongoose)\ **Post date:** [April 5, 2023, 2:52pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/44 "2023-04-05T14:52:48Z")
I use them sparingly but I have before. I feel like thinking about something else during sex other than focusing on being in the moment, takes away from the enjoyment of sex. ---
**Author:** ![strategic-peach-llama](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/strategic-peach-llama/32/260764_2.png) [@strategic-peach-llama](https://community.mymojo.com/u/strategic-peach-llama)\ **Post date:** [April 7, 2023, 5:49pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/45 "2023-04-07T17:49:50Z")
yes ---
**Author:** ![gleaming-emerald-hawk](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/gleaming-emerald-hawk/32/270704_2.png) [@gleaming-emerald-hawk](https://community.mymojo.com/u/gleaming-emerald-hawk)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2023, 7:45am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/46 "2023-04-23T07:45:02Z")
Making them into reality. ---
**Author:** ![gleaming-emerald-hawk](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/gleaming-emerald-hawk/32/270704_2.png) [@gleaming-emerald-hawk](https://community.mymojo.com/u/gleaming-emerald-hawk)\ **Post date:** [April 23, 2023, 7:48am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/47 "2023-04-23T07:48:26Z")
Making themm into ealitiy. ---
**Author:** ![thorough-cyan-beetle](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/thorough-cyan-beetle/32/215486_2.png) [@thorough-cyan-beetle](https://community.mymojo.com/u/thorough-cyan-beetle)\ **Post date:** [May 7, 2023, 7:47pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/48 "2023-05-07T19:47:55Z")
I like the idea ---
**Author:** ![popular-aquamarine-pigeon](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/popular-aquamarine-pigeon/32/268373_2.png) [@popular-aquamarine-pigeon](https://community.mymojo.com/u/popular-aquamarine-pigeon)\ **Post date:** [May 22, 2023, 11:00pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/49 "2023-05-22T23:00:53Z")
They are totally a part of everything and I think of them everyday, even if it’s just all the people I’ve slept with in the past. ---
**Author:** ![light-indigo-rooster](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/light-indigo-rooster/32/200850_2.png) [@light-indigo-rooster](https://community.mymojo.com/u/light-indigo-rooster)\ **Post date:** [June 2, 2023, 12:23pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/50 "2023-06-02T12:23:15Z")
I’ve always had little secret fantasies based on images or people I might see during the day. Sometimes I’d think of these when I needed an energy boost during a session. This certainly works. My problem is that my ability to recall a short fantasy in my mind and hold it in mind’s eye failed at the same time my little fella went awole. ---
**Author:** ![ethical-coral-whippet](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/ethical-coral-whippet/32/255039_2.png) [@ethical-coral-whippet](https://community.mymojo.com/u/ethical-coral-whippet)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2023, 9:32am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/51 "2023-06-09T09:32:58Z")
I use fantasy quite a lot when I’m alone rather than porn, and it works well. But don’t use it so much with my partner. I want to be able to use it with my partner when I start loosing my erection ---
**Author:** ![useful-black-crawdad](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/useful-black-crawdad/32/256676_2.png) [@useful-black-crawdad](https://community.mymojo.com/u/useful-black-crawdad)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2023, 5:05am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/52 "2023-06-10T05:05:03Z")
I’ve shared homoerotic fantasies with her and she’s fine with them to ---
**Author:** ![additional-lime-whale](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/additional-lime-whale/32/277692_2.png) [@additional-lime-whale](https://community.mymojo.com/u/additional-lime-whale)\ **Post date:** [June 12, 2023, 6:56pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/53 "2023-06-12T18:56:10Z")
I’m excited to grow my fantasy bank. I’ve always had intense fantasies, but my religious upbringing made me feel a lot of guilt and deep shame about my sexual my thoughts seemed. Just having informed professionals telling me to grow my fantasies is enough to get me excited. I’m tired of repressing and policing or feeling negatively about my thoughts and fantasies. They are mine and mine alone to use in the way I like, with the goal of being more open and connected in the moment. ---
**Author:** ![solar-crimson-sturgeon](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/solar-crimson-sturgeon/32/344760_2.png) [@solar-crimson-sturgeon](https://community.mymojo.com/u/solar-crimson-sturgeon)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2023, 11:15am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/54 "2023-06-15T11:15:45Z")
Before I developed psychological ED I had sexual fantasies often, but now situations that used to lead me to fantasizing just make me anxious 99% of the time. The only exception I can recall from the last few years is seeing an attractive woman’s shirt suddenly ride up and getting a glimpse of her bare back, I guess because it was unexpected. ---
**Author:** ![competent-indigo-ant](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/competent-indigo-ant/32/226272_2.png) [@competent-indigo-ant](https://community.mymojo.com/u/competent-indigo-ant)\ **Post date:** [June 15, 2023, 9:27pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/55 "2023-06-15T21:27:46Z")
I do the same thing! I workout close and fantasize all the time. It’s good to know I’m not alone. My imagination is strong because reality was tough growing up around women who neglected me. Now I still feel neglected, but desire closeness. Glad the fantasy and reality can come closer to being together. Awareness is a good first step. ---
**Author:** ![automatic-cyan-xerinae](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/automatic-cyan-xerinae/32/262822_2.png) [@automatic-cyan-xerinae](https://community.mymojo.com/u/automatic-cyan-xerinae)\ **Post date:** [June 25, 2023, 12:19am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/56 "2023-06-25T00:19:57Z")
My fantasies have a definite fetish aspect to them. I really want to share, but i’m afraid it would turn them off, or at worst drive them away. ---
**Author:** ![effective-chocolate-boa](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/effective-chocolate-boa/32/344702_2.png) [@effective-chocolate-boa](https://community.mymojo.com/u/effective-chocolate-boa)\ **Post date:** [June 26, 2023, 1:07pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/57 "2023-06-26T13:07:30Z")
Not at all I tend to be ashamed of sexual fantasies ---
**Author:** ![regular-gray-scallop](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/regular-gray-scallop/32/278948_2.png) [@regular-gray-scallop](https://community.mymojo.com/u/regular-gray-scallop)\ **Post date:** [June 29, 2023, 11:19pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/58 "2023-06-29T23:19:27Z")
I’ve had sexual fantasies since under the age of four or five - too young to know that’s that what they were. They can get a bit lost down one track until they feel like they are hardwired but then can change unexpectedly which gives me hope that building a bank of them will reignite my erections and it’s been quite stimulating reading about other’s fantasies to fuel my own. Might explore some erotic stories. ---
**Author:** ![thoughtful-chocolate-jellyfish](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/thoughtful-chocolate-jellyfish/32/342377_2.png) [@thoughtful-chocolate-jellyfish](https://community.mymojo.com/u/thoughtful-chocolate-jellyfish)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2023, 2:03pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/59 "2023-07-02T14:03:58Z")
My partner agreed to an open relationship, I never really got into gay Daddy fantasies, but now it’s part of our reality. 😀 ---
**Author:** ![puzzled-amaranth-eel](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/puzzled-amaranth-eel/32/327521_2.png) [@puzzled-amaranth-eel](https://community.mymojo.com/u/puzzled-amaranth-eel)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2023, 6:21pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/60 "2023-07-03T18:21:53Z")
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