# To what extent are sexual fantasies part of your life and relationships? **URL:** \ **Category:** ❓ Course questions\ **Tags:** couples\ **Created:** [September 7, 2022, 4:39pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322 "2022-09-07T16:39:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 40
**Author:** ![uncertain-fuchsia-giraffe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/bc8723/32.png) [@uncertain-fuchsia-giraffe](https://community.mymojo.com/u/uncertain-fuchsia-giraffe)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2025, 2:55pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/781 "2025-09-01T14:55:31Z")
Masturbate, in the shower, in room by myself, mainly keep it to myself. My wife doesn’t like talking about sex outside of sex. ---
**Author:** ![involved-tan-crow](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/87869e/32.png) [@involved-tan-crow](https://community.mymojo.com/u/involved-tan-crow)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2025, 9:06am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/782 "2025-09-02T09:06:48Z")
in the room when i masturbate, ---
**Author:** ![yummy-orange-amphibian](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/yummy-orange-amphibian/32/351104_2.png) [@yummy-orange-amphibian](https://community.mymojo.com/u/yummy-orange-amphibian)\ **Post date:** [September 4, 2025, 4:44am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/783 "2025-09-04T04:44:11Z")
Not hugely right now, but I have a sense they might get to be more soon, and that’s awesome ---
**Author:** ![glamorous-fuchsia-rooster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f0a364/32.png) [@glamorous-fuchsia-rooster](https://community.mymojo.com/u/glamorous-fuchsia-rooster)\ **Post date:** [September 6, 2025, 12:57am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/784 "2025-09-06T00:57:52Z")
Not shared, I fantasize over women I know I’ll never have sex with. Or with sexy friends I have where sex will never be on the table. ---
**Author:** ![external-orange-clam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/a3d4f5/32.png) [@external-orange-clam](https://community.mymojo.com/u/external-orange-clam)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2025, 9:11am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/785 "2025-09-07T09:11:16Z")
These fantasies are for my eyes only as they don’t involve my partner, and involve me living a different life. I’ll keep them that way ---
**Author:** ![youngest-tan-mandrill](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/y/43a26b/32.png) [@youngest-tan-mandrill](https://community.mymojo.com/u/youngest-tan-mandrill)\ **Post date:** [September 7, 2025, 12:28pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/786 "2025-09-07T12:28:47Z")
I think if anything an open conversation about what I fantasize my wife doing that aren’t too far - baby steps like perhaps wearing one of my button downs to see if there is mutual interest and have an open dialog where she is still comfortable and confident. That would be a huge win. ---
**Author:** ![clear-ivory-meerkat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/eb8c5e/32.png) [@clear-ivory-meerkat](https://community.mymojo.com/u/clear-ivory-meerkat)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2025, 3:41am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/787 "2025-09-11T03:41:18Z")
We’ve gotten as far as looking for a MFF threesome. I date on the side as long as I follow a few boundaries and rules. We’ve been together a long time, but over this past year things have gotten better. But it all began after our marriage was on the rocks. Communication became key. We had nothing to lose at that point, so we just laid it all out about our wants and needs. In and out of the bedroom. ---
**Author:** ![impossible-maroon-python](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/impossible-maroon-python/32/375943_2.png) [@impossible-maroon-python](https://community.mymojo.com/u/impossible-maroon-python)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2025, 9:37pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/788 "2025-09-14T21:37:25Z")
They could be and would like to add them ---
**Author:** ![managerial-crimson-halibut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ea5d25/32.png) [@managerial-crimson-halibut](https://community.mymojo.com/u/managerial-crimson-halibut)\ **Post date:** [September 15, 2025, 3:29am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/789 "2025-09-15T03:29:32Z")
Not much. We don’t really talk about fantasies. I have so many, and yet I’m so scared about bringing any of them up…which doesn’t make sense, considering what my girlfriend is into. ---
**Author:** ![unknown-olive-fox](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/fbc32d/32.png) [@unknown-olive-fox](https://community.mymojo.com/u/unknown-olive-fox)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2025, 2:00am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/790 "2025-09-18T02:00:15Z")
With my current partner, not much ---
**Author:** ![witty-indigo-ant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f0a364/32.png) [@witty-indigo-ant](https://community.mymojo.com/u/witty-indigo-ant)\ **Post date:** [September 18, 2025, 6:08am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/791 "2025-09-18T06:08:15Z")
I will bring this more into my life. ---
**Author:** ![desirable-magenta-squid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/2bfe46/32.png) [@desirable-magenta-squid](https://community.mymojo.com/u/desirable-magenta-squid)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2025, 3:35pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/792 "2025-09-19T15:35:46Z")
We don’t talk about fantasies but happy to try introducing them ---
**Author:** ![tremendous-chocolate-catfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e495f1/32.png) [@tremendous-chocolate-catfish](https://community.mymojo.com/u/tremendous-chocolate-catfish)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2025, 11:48am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/793 "2025-09-20T11:48:55Z")
A fantasy that has now become reality. For years we have had pillow talk about threesomes and more. 3 months ago a conversation came up about swinging and sex clubs and we agreed to check out the scene. We immediately fell in love with the lifestyle and now go every weekend. Our sex life is better than ever before. ---
**Author:** ![relative-blue-vulture](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e9c0ed/32.png) [@relative-blue-vulture](https://community.mymojo.com/u/relative-blue-vulture)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2025, 3:36am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/794 "2025-09-21T03:36:34Z")
Share ones we can do together ---
**Author:** ![able-azure-beetle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/4af34b/32.png) [@able-azure-beetle](https://community.mymojo.com/u/able-azure-beetle)\ **Post date:** [September 22, 2025, 4:35am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/795 "2025-09-22T04:35:39Z")
Part of we all have them ---
**Author:** ![elegant-azure-locust](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/elegant-azure-locust/32/409236_2.png) [@elegant-azure-locust](https://community.mymojo.com/u/elegant-azure-locust)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2025, 2:08pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/796 "2025-09-27T14:08:09Z")
I’ve been able to apply some of my fantasies to the bedroom before. My wife has dressed up in outfits I’ve fantasized her in a few times. ---
**Author:** ![middle-orange-crane](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/middle-orange-crane/32/228116_2.png) [@middle-orange-crane](https://community.mymojo.com/u/middle-orange-crane)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2025, 8:25pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/797 "2025-10-07T20:25:15Z")
I would like to include them more. ---
**Author:** ![considerable-purple-porpoise](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/considerable-purple-porpoise/32/260367_2.png) [@considerable-purple-porpoise](https://community.mymojo.com/u/considerable-purple-porpoise)\ **Post date:** [October 12, 2025, 2:22pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/798 "2025-10-12T14:22:45Z")
For now, nonexistent. I’d like to give them a try ---
**Author:** ![top-brown-pony](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a87d85/32.png) [@top-brown-pony](https://community.mymojo.com/u/top-brown-pony)\ **Post date:** [October 26, 2025, 2:29am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/799 "2025-10-26T02:29:26Z")
I used to fantasize about lot. I want to get back into it. ---
**Author:** ![anon90282355](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ad7895/32.png) [@anon90282355](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon90282355)\ **Post date:** [November 1, 2025, 5:53pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322/800 "2025-11-01T17:53:03Z")
Big part of my life…as someone always locked in my head, fantasies are really fun. They are not a part of my relationship, and I think I don’t want to share them with my partner. I do like the idea of using them internally to keep the momentum going when the time is right. I’ve never thought about creating an erotic bank to use deliberately for this purpose. [Previous page](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322.md?page=39) [Next page](https://community.mymojo.com/t/to-what-extent-are-sexual-fantasies-part-of-your-life-and-relationships/3322.md?page=41)