I had a weird experience today.
Can you guys help me understand if it’s a win or a loss?
I have been struggling a lot with performance anxiety popping up. I think it’s cause our wedding is coming up, but it’s been hit or miss lately and I’ve been in a panic. Yesterday we had had sex twice, it’s was crazy, especially the second time. I felt like an animal.
My fiance and I woke up this morning and were horny. I fingerd, her, then went down on her, she came both times. Then, when it came time to have sex, I got that tingle down my spine and that pit in my stomach “don’t fuck this up”. I instantly went down. I decided to just finger her again. After she came she was so wet, and I was so horny, I just slid my soft dick into her. She kinda loved it? We just had soft penis sex for a bit while I fingered her again and she came again. Then I kind of got hard, maybe not all the way, but hard, and I under up cumming too. I was like “that was different” and she was like “but I liked it”. I can’t really tell if that’s a win or not… but it was fun??
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I think you should come to the understanding with yourself that your women really loves you and wouldn’t think you “fucked it up” the way you worry you will. Give yourself way more credit than you do and know that you’re enough with real confidence behind that and think you’ll have less of these occurrences. If you don’t have hobbies that make you ultra confident, find some and excel at them. We as men with these issues need to get more primal.
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Sex me ok ni the call me ok
Maybe get a cialis for the wedding night / day after to take the edge off
Dude, that’s 100% a win. She orgasmed, you orgasmed, she told you she enjoyed it… How would that have been better if your dick had been harder?
Great work!
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I’d be careful with meds if you’re not in therapy while using them, especially if the root cause is psychological.
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Fair enough. Only a crutch
I feel very strongly that that was a big win, because of how you managed the situation and everyone had a fun time…
I know from my own experience that the “don’t fuck this up voice” pops up from time to time, but you understood that erections come and go during sex… and if you relax and feel the fun… the erection usually turns up… put bluntly… once “I’m IN….things usually end well… Thats my feeling… you are definitely on the up….
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I would call that a win! You got your partner off multiple times and ended up finishing as well! That experience of proof that you can still be an animal while your body is slightly out of sync and still have a mutually exciting time with your partner! All the best with the wedding, you got this!
If that were me I’d definitely call it a win, atleast from where I’m currently at
Defo a win. You orgasmed, she did more than once and she enjoyed it. A sex therapist once told me it’s normal for erections to come and go (no pun intended) during sex