When i touch myself i enjoy how im touching myself then how my partner thinks i enjoy
I feel like Porn messed it up in a major way. So for now I decided to never watch porn again, also no masturbation at all for now. Maybe that will change though…
Positive - Relaxing, EnjoyableNegative - Creates unrealistic expectations, Creates reliance on porn, Messy
Positive include the ability to satisfy myself when a sexual partner is not available and negative include the reliance on getting an erection a certain way that does not work with a partner
Pros: feels good, sexual releaseCons: uses up energy I want to direct towards my partner
Pros: relives alot of stress for me, feels like a safe placeCons: I feel alot of shame for the type of porn I watch sometimes, I feel guilty for overdoing it when I am bored/horny
Masturbating feels like uncoiling a spring for me, sometimes it’s built up all day or sometimes it only tightens when I get home or think or something arousing while sitting at home, and releasing it can really help me think a lot better about things. However it can effect my arousal for the rest of the day, and my refractory period is quite large, so I have to keep that in mind when doing it which can cause some anxiety around the process.
Sorry for the pain that porn has caused for you man! I can definitely relate, however one thing that helped me a lot is instead of feeling ashamed about masturbation, try doing it again, but this time make it more of a game about trying to figure out what makes you tick. Like, you’re going back to your roots and resetting your whole idea of masturbation. When I started giving up porn more and more and wanting to focus on masturbating without visual stimulus, it helped a lot to think of it as “I’m just using this experience to try and figure out what makes me excited and what doesn’t, outside of visuals”.
Also, focus on how it makes you feel and cut out any sort of fantasising for the first few times as I found trying to think about porn made it worse, but when I focused on how it made my penis feel and how my hand/skin/body feels while doing it, I felt as though porn didn’t have a hold on me anymore and started figuring out what I actually like and don’t like.
Hope that helps brother!
I think a negative for me is that I have always used my hand to get myself hard while watching porn or thinking about sexual stuff. I don’t have much experience of letting myself get hard organically without that direct physical touch. I think that experience of using my hand to get properly hard has spilt into my sex life where I need physical stimulation to get hard rather than just what is happening organically.
some positive effects are stress relief and help with sleep, plus it just feels really good at times. other times it can be stressful, especially if i feel that i am not achieving a rock hard erection or don’t have control over my orgasm. when this happens i tend to feel worse than when i began
I honestly can’t think that materbation is having a negative effect on me may be it is and I don’t realise it…
Positive include the ability to satisfy myself when a sexual partner is not available and negative include the reliance on getting an erection a certain way that does not work with a partner
I found taking viagra a way to hide instead of dealing with stress, performance anxiety etc.
Can have negative after effects - i.e. shame etc
Positive - stress relief
Pleasurable, but time consuming.
Positive- Feels good, stress relief, climax. Negative- Feel like if I can get hard while masturbating, why am I having issues when it comes to having sex.
Positive is I understand that I am potentially a very erotic and sexual person with all faculties working. Negative is my ability, or inability, to carry out these actions in a real situation
Nervous about not being fully erect even when I masturbate.
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I think over all after going through these coarses I have created some very poor masturbation habits and have created anxieties with intimacy with my wife.