Inner critic turns up knowing sex can/will happen, already saying that it not going to go well. It a constant battle truing to suppress it and then perform but already thinking that am only going to disappoint my partner
When the idea of sex is there, my inner critic is constantly trying to overthink or plan how the sex will go to try and maintain an erection. Or will be highlighting that I won’t be able to and that maybe I should just avoid it all together. Putting on a condom is also a time when my inner critic makes me rush and overthink things
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Sometimes I’m not sure if it’s an inner critic exactly, or if it’s a burst of nervousness and inadequacy
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My inner critic is instantaneous when sex is mentioned, even though I know I’m physically capable or an erection I doubt myself to the point I can’t do anything about it
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My inner critic is a feeling of overwhelming thoughts when sex is mentioned or if I think it’s on the cards. It almost takes priority of my thinking and then I can’t do anything about it.
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The same. My inner critic pops ups in group situations. Rather than a voice is much more a feeling, seeing my partner going through with no problem and despite of being aroused I can’t get hard and ended up apart of the group. It paralyzes me
When sex is mentioned my inner critics starts to try to plan everything and take control of the situation. Like a hand grabbing too tight. It gets worse when I get closer to the moment when I start with my partner
Shows up in anticipation like a thought: “Man, wouldn’t it be awful if…” but then sounds like “see? I told you” in the moment.
Even the suggestion of sex brings out my inner critic
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Before sex it starts lurking in the form of doubt and then full on anxiety during
it’s always BEFORE which stops me from having sex in the first place.
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It’s always before and during. The inner critic before is a voice that second guesses me to make me feel like I won’t perform well. The inn critic during sex tells me that I won’t stay erect.
Inner critic turns up at the mere thought of having sex. “You’re not gonna be able to keep it up. You’ll disappoint her”, unfortunately the little bugger is always right.
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Its always before and during sex. It is at its worse when he is going down on me. The self doubt my inner critic gives me stops me from performing at all.
Before sex deterring making a move
When my mind is not occupied ie driving to work it can become a default thing to worry about
Always at the start of sex, sometimes I can get it up and it’s fine but during it can creep in as well causing it to go down, usually if II think it, it happens.
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My critic jumps at the thought of sex and fills my head with negative thoughts regarding it
My inner critic begins when we’re in bed and I begin to rub on my wife but I don’t get hard. The critic begins to tell me negative thoughts regarding my ability to get an erection, making it very difficult to actually get the erection. Even if I do get the erection initially, the inner critic weighs on me with negativity causing me to lose the erection
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Hm, once I know sex is in a few days or at all; the thought sneaks in. As the day draws ever closer a heavy feeling like a fog rolls in. The the moment comes. I gets hard, the inner critic is silent. It speaks when I enter her! It becomes louder if I feel she is not enjoying herself. This subconsciously validates the inner critic & everything begins to unfold..
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