I didn’t know about the porn myths or that sex is on average 2-8 minutes
I’ve generally felt okay with my relationship with pirn, but there have been some concerns. I got some positive reinforcement and learned somethings
The porn as a self-soother concern struck me as I often use it as a tool to help me sleep
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The 2-8 minutes fact was new to me. Makes me feel quite good about my experiences.
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I realized that porn use is one of my only self-soothing habits.
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2-8 mins was eye opener for me too and made me feel more positive
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I’ve become reliant on it to achieve arousal and cum.
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Whew that anxiety no joke glad to see some labels on them so I can know to let them go.
I didn’t even know that you could have a healthy porn use.
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I’m relieved to learn I don’t have to quit porn entirely, maybe just shift the way I use it!
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What always bugged me was HOW INTO THE DUDES the girls were in porn. Like they would literally bend over backwards, suck the dudes dicks like they were made of candy that god had made himself. They’d do the nastiest shit and the guys would just expect it, and not even say “thank you”. It was rough for me as a nice dude who got nothing, but now I’m understanding that it’s just acting. It’s not just the GIGANTIC dick that the tattooed asshole who I wouldn’t want to pump my gas has that is driving this girl crazy…she’s also just acting “dick crazy” because it’s just her job to act “dick crazy”
I started with National Geographic, dudes. This porn world has gotten more confusing every year of my life from there. Sears catalogs, Bali catalogs that showed the dark outlines of nipples, Victorias Secret, SI swimsuit issues, Playboys found in the woods, Cinemax coming in blurry if I hold the tv channel dial just right, HUSTLERs bought from a friend who stole them from his dad, images on Compuserve that took 10 minutes to download at 26kbps…to the point where I leave my family watching tv in the living room, walk to the bathroom and before I have the door closed I’m through pictures of beautiful naked girls staring directly into the camera, smiling with their mouths open wide and Tounges out…
This world is set up to get you guys. I almost feel like this should be taught in school
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I want to learn how to use porn in a healthy way that doesn’t prevent me from being completely present during real sexual experiences
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sexual shame from religion is a real boner killer.
Not to feel shame about watching porn, but to view it subjectively, as it isn’t a true reflection of real life and to use it healthily, if it continues to give me pleasure
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I’ve used it mainly for self soothing but I want to learn to dissociate porn from real life sex no matter how much I try to choose the most realistic videos to watch
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I don’t feel that I have to watch or that I even do as much anymore but I do feel it’s definitely created some unhealthy standards in my head negatively affecting my sexual health and mental health
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I feel porn is taking energy out of my day that I could invest in better things. And yet, I keep finding myself getting there, even multiple times a day and it leaves me drained. I believe it male’s my dick more difficult to please in real life. More insensitive.
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For me, I think the guilt thing makes sense because if it’s something I feel like I shouldn’t be doing then when I am ready to have sex I feel guilty because I know I shouldn’t of been watching the porn. I don’t even watch that much but sometimes after I can’t finish, I will resort to that. Honestly for me, I think I’d be better off without it.
For me, what I watch is different to what my real sex life is, sometimes I struggle to get full erections in my real sex life because I’m use to the fantasies of porn and porn is really affecting me through sexual shame resulting in me not even getting erections daily
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That the average duration of sex is 2-8 minutes encouraged me
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