The fact that my issues can potentially be addressed while still mindfully being able to watch porn is a huge weight lifted. I thought I’d have to join some nofap or pornfree program in order to improve.
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I’m not an addict but during the pandemic, I relied on porn a lot and I haven’t been sexually active for almost two years with anyone, save for porn. I believe I have a situational problem in maintaining an erection and ejaculating. I’m much more at ease when I’m controlling the fantasy then how it plays out with a partner. I’m glad I can address this concern which will lead to more productive sexual experiences.
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I’m a Christian who is gay and I don’t believe the God I read in the Bible thinks I am an abomination, but the arc of the Bible and if you’re a Christian is to love God and love your neighbor as yourself. The context of the stories around same gender loving people in my opinion has been corrupted through translation, social power/politics, and without truly understanding the context of these various scriptures. I know that Jesus never mentioned anything about homosexuality and if the red letters are to be believed then I must conclude that despite what’s written in Black is from man and not from God.
I would like to have peace with watching porn. I’ve taken it so far to have paid hundreds of dollars for onlyfans content. I see the need for new stuff and it affects how I go about getting sex at times. I just wanna be able to separate what I watch to how I respond to my dating life. I’ve been told that I talk about it and have even put a bit of pressure on how sex is preformed. I just wanna enjoy sex with my partner
Porn is something I don’t want to have to lie about or hide from my partner. But it is how I have always gotten pleasure through masterbating. I would like to eliminate the problems all together
So many familiar stories, which is immensely calming to know. I started watching porn when I was like 16 and have done so almost daily (I’m now 35) until getting this app and making some serious life changes. My inclination to date has drastically increased and my motivation to improve myself has, too. Working on the wank bank and jerking to that has me way more in tune with reality, though I still have such a hankering to crank it to some porn every day. Can’t wait for that to be out of my system
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Before the Internet, I bought vhs and dvds for « general interest » porn. Now, I can always find porn that hits the bullseye of my kinks. I have a fetish, and I can find material that is right on target with my fantasies. It must be unhealthy to base my sexuality on my fantasies so much.
First I didn’t think porn was bad then I really thought it was so I quit for years. Now I’m more neutral and even think the most important part could be whether or not we BELIEVE it is good or bad that really matters.
I think it is a self-soothing or even boredom-relieving activity but it is enveloped in feelings of shame and inadequacy. I still don’t understand how it can be used in a healthy way
Never knew the anxieties of watching porn too much can lead to ED
I think I’ve noticed that porn puts personal expectations on me that aren’t really true to what sex is. For me, it’s going to be abstinence until I can better understand the reality of sex again.
I think I watch porn out of compulsion or to relieve stress. Recently, I found reading porn vs watching porn has significantly improved the quality of my erections with a partner as well.
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I think when I watch porn, it is easier for me to orgasm since I have more control of what helps me go across the finish line. When I’m with a sexual partner, having that control is sometimes more difficult, which leads to me having challenges to orgasm (despite being hard).
When I watch porn, I’m not scared about disappointing someone else, so there is zero pressure, which helps maintain an erection. But in the end, the orgasm is always not very good, compared to when I’m with my partner
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Honestly I don’t watch very much porn anymore. And even before I didn’t like to watch the penetrative videos. Just more specialized fetish content
It got to the point for me that even while I was working I would be watching porn. I believe this over consumption of porn has caused me porn related ED and can’t get hard when it comes time when I’m about to have sex with my girlfriend. We used to have sex everyday multiple times a day but recently in the last few months its gone down dramatically until now where I can’t even get it up and am scared to get intimate with her due to not being able to get it up
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Watching porn from a young age made me very insecure about my size when it’s completely normal. I probably relied on porn and avoided women because of it which I think caused some porn related ED when I’m with partners now
It does make me a bit insecure, especially the fact that everything is erect all of the time.
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I have a lot of shame revolving around sex because of what I have seen in porn and also from a past relationship. I can see that continuing to watch porn does not help me as I have watched it since I was 13.
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I used to watch quite a lot of porn from early teens to my early 30s, I can see how it gave me a really unhealthy idea of what sex should look like.
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