What do you want to gain from this course?

[diplomatic-maroon-eel]

I find it’s effecting how hard I can stay during sex as I’ve become so self reliant on using porn to orgasm that I’m somewhat turned off when getting off with someone physically

[legitimate-tan-crawdad]

I tried nofap and quitting porn entirely a few times, but it didn’t really help and often relapsed and felt even worse afterwards. I’ve now learned not to stigmatise it, and allow my body to follow its own sexual urges. This really helped my relationship with porn, but also with sex in general.

[firm-red-locust]

I started watching porn when I was 12, and ended up progressing to some pretty fucking awful fantasies, way beyond my moral and ethical values in real life. This guilt and shame has affected my sex life, so I quit recently. But to know it’s not the porn itself but the shame that’s been affecting me is huge.

[instant-turquoise-sheep]

As most curious young men do I watched porn but was so guilted and shamed I never dealt with it like a normal human. So now it’s hard to be open about with spouse. We have just recently left our religion but the shame is still there. I hate it

[growing-brown-mandrill]

I’m actually shocked by what happens to make a porn movie…. Now I feel normal.

[theoretical-maroon-mammal]

I do it to get off, but it’s getting boring. They follow the same routines in most of the videos.

[concrete-crimson-parrot]

I find I like oral sex with a hard penis, which probably isn’t helping my anxiety and ED.

[different-black-dingo]

I just need to learn to get turned on by myself

[intense-olive-tiglon]

I’d like to distinguish between the arousal associated with instant gratification and hard earned love based intimacy

[motionless-green-meerkat]

the aha moment for me was when that sexologist named having erection issues with partners but not with porn. i think for me it’s partly the anxiety he names, and the other part is using porn to find extremely specific, mood driven images. in real life when maybe those images are out of reach AND i’m anxious, boom. boner gone. knowing that is helpful, because now i can change it.

[identical-moccasin-mink]

I use porn as an instant gratification - to soothe and relief the stress I face. It happens so frequent that I not watch porn everyday without fail. This has also affected my sexual life as I now have very wrapped ideas what sex should be or feel.

[elegant-coral-grouse]

Using porn seems like it’s so much easier in my mind at the time than actual sex, but then once I actually have sex I can’t believe how much better it feels.

[helpful-apricot-cicada]

What can I do about situational erectile dysfunction

[outdoor-orange-horse]

I think I watch porn as a quick fix to get hard and to relieve stress

[serious-bronze-wolverine]

I think the biggest issue for me is shame

[exact-copper-basilisk]

My ex made an interesting observation about me, saying that when I have sex with her I’m constantly changing our sex position vs her old partner (who didn’t watch porn) tended to have sex in the same position for the whole duration of each time they had sex. I thought that was quite interesting and maybe shows how much porn makes you get bored of one thing and need new stimulation? Not sure..

[rude-orange-kiwi]

I worry that watching a bit of porn will affect my ability to perform next time. If i think i am going to get some, i will often abstain to prepare

[instant-gray-jellyfish]

It seems like I watch to see things I don’t usually see but people talk about.

[superb-moccasin-orca]

The average duration of sex. I never thought about it to be honest. I’m always thinking I need to be hard for at least half an hour to have good sex but if it’s really that short then why am I stressing out so much?

[clear-chocolate-bandicoot]

Porn is causing me to have anxiety about real sex