My inner critic reminds me well in advance of a potential sexual encounter. He’s me, a smaller version of me trying to get me to avoid the situation as a whole. He thinks it’s going to go poorly, I won’t get hard, and will embarrass myself in front of a girl. He wants me to avoid these situations as a whole to not have to take the risk
It’s not so much a voice but is a sensation like dread
My inner critic is an older, negative, and prudish version of me. He doubts me before I even start.
My inner critic has been outted, he’s a ned (baseball cap, joggers tucked into his socks, the whole lot) - I’ll keep an eye out for him. I’ll call him Shug.
My inner critic doesn’t want to disappoint my partner or lead to an awkward situation.
My inner critic feels constant. everytime i imagine sex i cannot even picture it being successful. this has been going on for the last 3 weeks, and i feel helpless. before sex starts it’s a voice questioning whether why i am not hard, and even though i can relax into getting an erection, although often not a full one, the second it escalates to sex i lose it. The voice tells me that i will lose my erection and i do, it’s very frustrating
It’s strange really. I know I can have a great sexual relationship; it is just the first time and the nerves that are created. I know once I am relaxed with someone I am fine, but the thought of failing on the first occasion is the killer
Mine always kicks in just when I even see pr think about putting on a condom
My inner critic is warning me that the same issues are going to arise again and to avoid sex to avoid embarrassment. It takes over my thoughts and acts like a voice in my head
My inner critic tells me I’m going to cum too soon and she won’t enjoy it, instead of living in the moment…this causes me to go soft.
To me its not really a voice or feeling, its like a shadow that just stay’s their without me knowing or wanting it too
My inner critic always sounds deceptively reasonable and is always pointing out new reasons why I won’t get an erection or things won’t go well when having sex. “There are so many ways things could go wrong…” So this prevents me from being in the moment and enjoying myself or thinking about what could go right
my inner critic is my mind saying please stay hard
It keeps reminding me that Im hard and I can’t get hard and I’m not going to be able to give my partner what they want which is actual sex not just foreplay
It’s my own voice gnawing at me from inside my head. Telling me I’m going to mess this up, I’m not enough for her, I might as well give up.
after an absence of sex thanks to covid for a couple of years i noticed when i had the opportunity the guy just didn’t work. Sometimes I put it down to alcohol. But now Ive got a beautiful new girlfriend and even now a couple days away from seeing her the voice is telling me it wont work and Ill disappoint her
I do find some comfort seeing that everyone else has a similar inner critic. While my inner critic is specific to me, I thought it was only me that has one…
I know it frustrates my partner but she understands and knows it’s a head game for me. She’s super supportive with it but I still feel bad knowing that it does frustrate her. I thoroughly enjoy pleasuring her but I know she wants to do the same and I let my inner critic get the best of me every time specifically with sex.
My inner critic is my own voice in my head It tells me that I’m not gonna stay hard and that I’m not good enough
My inner critic is my own voice that gives me anxious warnings. It reminds me of previous failures to sustain my erection especially when I’m about to penetrate my partner. My inner voice makes me nervous by telling me not to screw it up again cos it might put off someone you like.
My inner critic manifests as doubt. He says the right things but there’s another layer that doubts what he says. Maybe that’s the true critic? He’s a sneaky devil that be is so faint it’s hard to pinpoint.