# What does your inner critic sound like? (Part 4) **URL:** \ **Category:** ❓ Course questions\ **Created:** [July 31, 2024, 1:40pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941 "2024-07-31T13:40:51Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 281
**Author:** ![weary-bronze-mosquito](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/f6c823/32.png) [@weary-bronze-mosquito](https://community.mymojo.com/u/weary-bronze-mosquito)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 5:21am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5601 "2024-12-04T05:21:00Z")
No voice really, just persistent worries. Not being hard enough again, and not finishing again, and the worry that this person regrets ever having sex with me. ---
**Author:** ![glamorous-lavender-rat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/bc79bd/32.png) [@glamorous-lavender-rat](https://community.mymojo.com/u/glamorous-lavender-rat)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 7:06am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5602 "2024-12-04T07:06:41Z")
My ex girlfriend whom I couldn’t perform with ---
**Author:** ![gradual-apricot-baboon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/f04885/32.png) [@gradual-apricot-baboon](https://community.mymojo.com/u/gradual-apricot-baboon)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 10:36am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5603 "2024-12-04T10:36:53Z")
My inner-critic’s voice is mostly my own I think, but it has a smug, dismissive, condescending tone to it that I resented in my father. It often asks questions, usually in a way that suggests the answer is obvious, I’m slow and need to be coached towards the answer. It’s accompanied with a creeping prickling of disappointment. ---
**Author:** ![underground-indigo-duck](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/u/6f9a4e/32.png) [@underground-indigo-duck](https://community.mymojo.com/u/underground-indigo-duck)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 11:38am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5604 "2024-12-04T11:38:02Z")
No voice really. Just thoughts “Im going to fail. It’s not going to work. Shes going to think you were just faking your attraction to her the whole time. Its going to go badly”. All this and I noticed my body clenched up, like I was about to be attacked or something. ---
**Author:** ![rigid-yellow-silverfish](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/f17d59/32.png) [@rigid-yellow-silverfish](https://community.mymojo.com/u/rigid-yellow-silverfish)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 1:59pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5605 "2024-12-04T13:59:26Z")
My inner critic was flashing memories of failed times that i tried to be intimate with a partner ---
**Author:** ![considerable-maroon-swift](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/b5ac83/32.png) [@considerable-maroon-swift](https://community.mymojo.com/u/considerable-maroon-swift)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 2:30pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5606 "2024-12-04T14:30:44Z")
Just a voice in my head telling me that I won’t be able to keep my election or satisfy my partner ---
**Author:** ![proposed-black-wallaby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/439d5e/32.png) [@proposed-black-wallaby](https://community.mymojo.com/u/proposed-black-wallaby)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 2:54pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5607 "2024-12-04T14:54:31Z")
It’s the stress I feel worrying about whether I’ll actually be able to get it up and keep it up with a new partner. ---
**Author:** ![cautious-black-alpaca](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@cautious-black-alpaca](https://community.mymojo.com/u/cautious-black-alpaca)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 4:06pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5608 "2024-12-04T16:06:09Z")
Just a voice inside my head making me wonder whether I can keep an erection or not after foreplay ---
**Author:** ![brainy-olive-chameleon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ad7895/32.png) [@brainy-olive-chameleon](https://community.mymojo.com/u/brainy-olive-chameleon)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 5:07pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5609 "2024-12-04T17:07:11Z")
I call it the Blerge, it’s like a fat little cherub sitting on my shoulder telling me I’m not good enough ---
**Author:** ![electrical-peach-marlin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@electrical-peach-marlin](https://community.mymojo.com/u/electrical-peach-marlin)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 5:39pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5610 "2024-12-04T17:39:50Z")
It’s just me. I’m there, staring back at myself, telling me my inner critic is the voice of reason — that obviously nothing will work physically, it’ll only end in disappointment, that your partner will feel like it’s their fault you can’t perform, and that you’ll never be deserving of a proper relationship or partner because you permanently polluted your brain with porn and will never be able to re-wire it. ---
**Author:** ![shivering-amethyst-canid](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/shivering-amethyst-canid/32/449137_2.png) [@shivering-amethyst-canid](https://community.mymojo.com/u/shivering-amethyst-canid)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 8:25pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5611 "2024-12-04T20:25:44Z")
Mate, I couldn’t have written it better myself. Onwards and upwards, we are here for a reason. Self development and improvement ---
**Author:** ![enthusiastic-salmon-bug](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ecc23a/32.png) [@enthusiastic-salmon-bug](https://community.mymojo.com/u/enthusiastic-salmon-bug)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 9:01pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5612 "2024-12-04T21:01:07Z")
I think it’s a part of me. Though it doesn’t look like me. It’s almost like negative space. Dark matter. The worst parts of me that think giving up is easier than addressing the issue. Or tempting me to accept I’m just not built for intimacy like this. I want to argue with it, but I don’t know how. That’s why I’m here. ---
**Author:** ![historic-jade-buzzard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/d07c76/32.png) [@historic-jade-buzzard](https://community.mymojo.com/u/historic-jade-buzzard)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 9:18pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5613 "2024-12-04T21:18:29Z")
Low self confidence, makes me scared I won’t perform and end up embarrassing myself. So I avoid the situation entirely. Especially if I’ve been out drinking. ---
**Author:** ![enthusiastic-white-dragon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/db5fbb/32.png) [@enthusiastic-white-dragon](https://community.mymojo.com/u/enthusiastic-white-dragon)\ **Post date:** [December 4, 2024, 11:30pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5614 "2024-12-04T23:30:26Z")
I don’t have a voice, just a feeling of dread and avoidance. It’s like my body is signalling to me to not embarrass myself ---
**Author:** ![wasteful-sapphire-firefly](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/b4bc9f/32.png) [@wasteful-sapphire-firefly](https://community.mymojo.com/u/wasteful-sapphire-firefly)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2024, 4:15am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5615 "2024-12-05T04:15:24Z")
I just get a reminder of of the feeling of past failings. A failed test or disappointment in the face of my wife after failing to satisfy her. ---
**Author:** ![remote-amaranth-tick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/47e85d/32.png) [@remote-amaranth-tick](https://community.mymojo.com/u/remote-amaranth-tick)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2024, 6:22am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5616 "2024-12-05T06:22:07Z")
Mine is a voice that sounds mature, reasonable and like the adult me. I recognise it as the same voice I hear before I start work or chore. It is what comes before the start of anything I “should or not” be doing. Sometimes it’s a rehashing of a painful memory that could be a possible outcome that causes a nauseous feeling. My inner critic takes on different forms and it’s developed even now I can hear it trying to intrude while I am writing about it, I feel it’s who I have been walking through life with since early teens. ---
**Author:** ![contemporary-olive-ant](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/258eb7/32.png) [@contemporary-olive-ant](https://community.mymojo.com/u/contemporary-olive-ant)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2024, 7:04am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5617 "2024-12-05T07:04:08Z")
Mine feels like a combination of fear and guilt. Like I’m about to get in trouble for something. For failing? No specific voice but very strong feelings and images. ---
**Author:** ![busy-azure-junglefowl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a88e57/32.png) [@busy-azure-junglefowl](https://community.mymojo.com/u/busy-azure-junglefowl)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2024, 2:19pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5618 "2024-12-05T14:19:28Z")
I have aphantasia, but i know my inner critic just drowns me in a forbodding sense of immense dread ---
**Author:** ![careful-teal-hornet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ee7513/32.png) [@careful-teal-hornet](https://community.mymojo.com/u/careful-teal-hornet)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2024, 3:08pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5619 "2024-12-05T15:08:59Z")
No voice, no visual. Just a sense of fear around the subject that I’m not going to be able to maintain an erection. ---
**Author:** ![overseas-violet-panther](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ee59a6/32.png) [@overseas-violet-panther](https://community.mymojo.com/u/overseas-violet-panther)\ **Post date:** [December 5, 2024, 3:19pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941/5620 "2024-12-05T15:19:11Z")
it is negative energy that consumes me when I know that the sex is not going how it should be. A feeling in my brain and guilt that I am not able to satisfy and please my partner [Previous page](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941.md?page=280) [Next page](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-does-your-inner-critic-sound-like-part-4/6941.md?page=282)