I don’t want my partner to feel inadequate
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Because I don’t know what it is I need to get there. I’ve never gotten there on my own.
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I feel awkward but also don’t fully know what would make me orgasm
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I feel embarrassed or get too much into my own head about expressing what I want or could want. It doesn’t matter that I know it’s silly, I just find it difficult to get over that feeling of shame and it’s preventing me from trying things that could work with a partner.
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I genuinely don’t know what I need, I can only cum one way, and have no idea how to translate it into partnered sex. It also feels uncomfortable, especially not knowing. It feels like I should know.
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It can feel like my job is to be responsive, and when I have tried to actively communicate what might activate or heighten my pleasure, even despite his stated interest in knowing that, my answer tends to be dismissed. Since I don’t actually know how to cum with a partner, I’m hoping for mutual discovery, but there doesn’t seem to be an available pathway for closing that “gap.”
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Feeling pressure that my partner is turned on by my pleasure - if i communicate something isn’t working i don’t want to ruin a special moment. I was reliant on using toys to orgasm for many years and decided I wanted to stop for a period of time. While I am relearning to enjoy human touch my sensitivity is not consistent and takes a long time to build. With partners and solo.
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In the past I felt like it was a pointless exercise and if we attempted it and it didn’t achieve climax then it was a waste of time. It was easier not to & to just get it over and done with.
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The sex still felt good and didn’t want to appear as a burden wanting individualized attention.
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Time, connection, complete bodily trust and safety
Lack of confidence
Embarrassment about the specific way I reach orgasm with myself – it feels more like a little girl, rather than a sexually empowered woman
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Embarressed about what they might think of me as it can be quite taboo fantasies
I’m worried I will make my partner feel shameful that he isn’t doing it correctly, i want him to always think i am loving everything he does
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I don’t like the response that I’m supposed to just enjoy it as it’s given because others seemed to
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I feel like if I want to introduce my toy to help me orgasm, I’m undermining him - it feels like I’m hurting his feelings if he can’t make me orgasm without it
I’m the exact same!
Knowing that I had never orgasmed and wondered if the effort would be for nothing
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I’m embarrassed that the less conventional method that I’ve used for manual masturbation looks too weird to do in front of another person. It also uses a lot of pressure and I’m scared they will say it will desensitize me, even though I don’t thinkkk that’s true?
As I was used to not having my pleasure prioritised, it’s now difficult for me in my current relationship to express what I like and need. I thinks kind of because I don’t really know what I like or need during penetrative sex.