I watch porn to masturbate as part of a daily routine.
It’s amazing to understand the concept of autopilot. I wasn’t watching porn because I was horny but because I wanted to avoid stress and negative thoughts. But finding new options can unlink stress with sex
My porn watching became daily after work so I can take my nap. Before I go to bed to feel stressed free. Sometimes I wasn’t even horny. I just wanted to watch porn and when I ejaculated, I don’t think I felt anything. I guess I was an auto pilot. I really need to change that it’s interfering with real life. Human interaction.
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It became more of an unhealthy habit that I didn’t need
I used to demonise porn a lot, but recently it’s not so much watching it, it’s more I want to give it a break while I fix my other issues. And hopefully give me more urges which will help in the bedroom
I think this is the most releaving and healthy way to approach quitting porn or any bad habit for that matter instead of blindly participating in it and beating yourself so much about to where you feel so negative you do it again realize what you actually red and do another activity accordingly also lean into God
No new insights in this lesson. I already understand the motivations for porn consumption
I started watching porn as a way to cope with feeling negative emotions or to deal with a bad day, but I realize that it has made me dependent on visual stimulation and that I created a poor coping mechanism. I’d like to entirely cut porn out of my life.
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I found myself on ‘auto pilot’ more often than not - nothing happening between my wife and I physically so I substituted the effort with what was easy - a screen. And the habit became almost daily. I’d like to replace this habit with better ones to reconnect feelings and connections with my wife instead of a screen.
This really resonated with me. Especially with the switch to work from home, it became an occasional end of day stress relief after nonstop meetings. Then over time it became more habitual and daily (really auto-pilot). A big issue then is that I have really gotten used to both that specific masturbation as a preference / no-stress way to get hard and also the fact that I can find exactly what porn I want for a given moment, means that normal sex will have an even harder time competing with both the physical and mental aspects that are so well tuned with masturbation and porn. Significantly reducing the frequency alone would probably help a lot.
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I think its such an ingrained habit that Im not sure how to stop
I learned that there are alternatives to porn, and other ways to reduce stress
Slowing down and understanding my intention is a first step
Its been apparent to me that I watch it to distract from problems, or from boredom but it has become a habit and raised some negative effects in life.
I already knew why I was doing it and it’s difficult to find a way to divert from it what is knocking at the door as it’s become something on automatic mode. I need to find a way to get rid of this and find some escapes
I definitely only watch porn if I’m lonely or horny, even when I’m horny with my partner I struggle with it because my body is so attuned to the visual of porn. So quitting it altogether is the best thing for me so I can focus on real life stimulation.
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I mainly use porn when I’m horny but also some times when I am stressed. I think I am able to go cold turkey so I will continue doing that. I have gone 2 months before without it (I’ve been watching for 10 years). If I am horny I will use the erotic stories. If I am stressed I will meditate or workout.
This app helped me better understand my triggers, the reasons why i use porn. I mainly used it because i was young and didn’t have access to the real thing or because i was bored or horny at the moment and needed something to satisfy or distract my mind from the boredom which led to my addiction to porn.
I have repeatedly tried to go cold turkey with porn for ages. I still want to continue abstinence, but the questions in this exercise and the resources available are really helpful.
I’ve used porn as a stress reliever for years, but it’s also a habit; sometimes I’ll find myself watching porn without even thinking about it. Finding ways to switch off that autopilot and redirect myself is something I want to work on.