I need to work on being okay that not everyone else learns these techniques and understands how to handle conflict and issues the same way. Sometimes I get irritated that it feels like I’m the only one putting in the work. I know that’s not true, but it feels like that a lot because I see other people making a lot of classic communication mistakes and it triggers me, because I want to help them avoid them but don’t know the best way to do that.
Would say expressing myself to her.
I’m not used to talking about my needs, so I will try to do that more. I’m dating, so each potential partner will be different to disagree with. I’m curious what our first argument will be.
I need to be better about taking charge and vocalizing when I’m frustrated towards my wife. She has a strong personality and that makes me want to she away from conflict.
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We conflict over my ED. I say it may time to fix but she wants to enjoy it now. I see her side of it too
Admittedly, I go straight to what I presume is the reason or my perceived solution to it. I have a curse that I’m usually correct however it’s not helpful in discussions when I don’t let someone add thier point t / feelings etc. I’ve certainly been wrong before and I need to do a better job of not assuming before all the facts.
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I don’t conflict because I’ve never been in a relationship before.
I will recall techniques like non violent communication where possible, and adjust my response appropriately.
I need to work on how to help my girlfriend express her deepest concerns with me. She sometimes turns the tables back on me to avoid talking about the things that bother her.
I need to continue to express to my wife my feelings about what I would like to see in our relationship like consistent healthy habits and honest discussions about needs. I need to continue to be a model for this as well.
My wants, needs, likes and dislikes. I’m so worried about making her happy, I totally neglect myself in the process. This leads to resentment.
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I solution to fast in conflict and I try to moderate my partners emotions
I always had to do more than 50% of the chore, taking care of the kids, the house, etc. Since my wife got a promotion, it got even worst. She tries to do more but she always picks what she like. I was foolish enough to dream that if I do all of that for her happiness, she would also be more inclined to do things for my happiness, which includes more intimacy, in frequency and in intensity. Nothing, this is a frustrating dead-end.
I am working on my anger, since it is bad for me and does nothing good. I am trying to communicate, but when she is listening, she might only act positively act once, but she never change in thelong term. I feel stuck.
Intimacy is minimal, chores are heavy, communicating seems useless after so many tries. In this huge frustrating pattern, I am wondering if I should quit her.
She seems unconcerned by whatever I tell her, she never has doubts and never cries or express strong emotions.
I really appreciate Mojo for helping me understand my patterns but I don’t find any solution.
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I have not had any relationships to have any conflicts yet. So far, they come drink misunderstanding from family members.
I’m not currently in a relationship but I learnt from my last one that difficult conversations cannot be avoided. I really want to be open and direct in my next relationship, as well as the qualities that come more naturally like playfulness and caring and support.
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I am currently going through a situation where my wife has raised a particular issues I was dismissive of and avoided, because of this she feels no option but to discuss separation, even though it could be too late I am now trying to learn how to care and not caretake
Anytime my dick comes up I shut down. I’d like to focus on talking more directly about my issues and asking for different sexual acts
I really need to check in with myself if I’m feeling off about anything. Because I haven’t recently, it’s led to me having very triggering and upsetting reactions whilst me and my partner were being intimate, and it’s caused a situation where she isn’t able to feel fully comfortable with me anymore. I’m terrified that it’s going to finish off our relationship, and I know if I give up that I will regret it for the rest of my life.
At the moment I don’t think there’s any conflict between me and my girl to talk about. However, there are loooots of conflicts between me and myself that I want to sort out. As well as some other omes between me and my family, particularly with my father.
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I avoid conflict as far as possible, so I need to work on identifying my needs and advocating for them
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