That’s it’s immoral from a religious upbringing, that it desensitizes me to real-life sex, and that it’s easier for me to get off on porn than making the effort to find a real-life partner.
It’s the damn purity culture/control-centric religion that has so much judgment and even disgust toward sexuality, including porn . I do not agree with those messages anymore, but my body hasn’t caught up to my brain…and my body still remembers “this is shameful”. I’m working to be present with my body.
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I just want to stop spending so much time on porn, it’s killing me and makes me depressed
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I struggle with idea that it doesn’t impact my ability to get hard. But it’s really just a self fulfilling prophecy
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That I’m a bad or gross person for watching it. Having grown up in a high demand religion full of purity culture there is so much shame with simply doing something normal. Screw my past bad feelings. I’m ok! I’m normal! No more shame!
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I am brought to imagine that it’s something only a few grown up people do. I know this is wrong but it’s a thought in the back of my mind. I guess it’s because only few people talk openly about it
Porn gives me an escape that distances me from my partner. I wish to stop hiding.
Porn is so hot that real life encounters are underwhelming, and it’s not enough to get me hard
Porn desensitizes you and trains your body to get hard in only one way
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That its not habit forming
That you can only have good sex without a condom. There’s so little condom usage in porn, but in real life that’s dangerous with a new partner.
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That I should be able to have sex like they do in porn at least sometimes
I’m still watching but I’m feeling more at peace with it slowly
I struggle to let go of the porn myth of it not hurting erections.
Porn is ruining/has ruined my ability to enjoy sex with real people
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Watching porn is preventing me from getting erections with a partner in real life
Porn and masturbation is impacting my ability to get and maintain erections
Sometimes. I know that I don’t have unreal expectation related to porn, and am aware of the behind the scenes stuff that is not shown.
My relationship with porn is deep rooted from starting to watch it at an early age (roughly 10) and using porn as a way to comfort myself through difficult emotional times. My reliance on porn as a safe space really accelerated after the death of my father when I was 13. Also I (like every other pre-teen boy) had major insecurities about talking to girls and getting girls to like me. I have a lot to unpack with my relationship with porn but the more I go through this course, the more I want to look at it and do the work so I can reshape my relationship with porn in a way that is healthy for me in my life
Part of my struggle with porn is that from the earliest time watching porn I felt deep shame and like I was a sexual deviant. The translation into my real sex life was gradual but has shown itself periodically over the years.