# What would you say to someone who has experienced erection issues for the first time? **URL:** \ **Category:** 🍆 Erection issues\ **Created:** [July 30, 2021, 6:26am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439 "2021-07-30T06:26:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 17\ **Page:** 10
**Author:** ![worrying-violet-rat](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/worrying-violet-rat/32/206158_2.png) [@worrying-violet-rat](https://community.mymojo.com/u/worrying-violet-rat)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2022, 8:34am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/182 "2022-10-04T08:34:51Z")
For a first time… forget about it, don’t replay it or dwell on it, think about other exciting experiences instead if it was a negative experience. Keep it on the fun side, it just happens to everyone. ---
**Author:** ![anon53926527](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f17d59/32.png) [@anon53926527](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon53926527)\ **Post date:** [October 5, 2022, 1:55am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/183 "2022-10-05T01:55:01Z")
You are not alone. There are many people with the same issue. It is not just you. It’s okay to discuss it. Most people will understand and not have any expectations of you. ---
**Author:** ![anon56608992](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/919ad9/32.png) [@anon56608992](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon56608992)\ **Post date:** [October 7, 2022, 4:53am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/184 "2022-10-07T04:53:20Z")
I’d share that patience is key in both that initial situation and long term. Taking things slowly during sex is always so sexy and being with someone long term who will have the patience to work through what is ultimately likely a passing issue is also sexy. Lastly, it’s good to be patient with oneself. ---
**Author:** ![anon37675900](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/2acd7d/32.png) [@anon37675900](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon37675900)\ **Post date:** [October 9, 2022, 7:35pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/185 "2022-10-09T19:35:07Z")
Don’t assume that you are the problem. Allow all possibilities to be present and slowly work through them until you find the solution. ---
**Author:** ![anon19649891](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3bc359/32.png) [@anon19649891](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon19649891)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2022, 2:20pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/186 "2022-10-10T14:20:23Z")
It’s normal and they Mojo! ---
**Author:** ![anon33456714](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/74df32/32.png) [@anon33456714](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon33456714)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2022, 4:16am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/187 "2022-10-14T04:16:45Z")
Talk about it and you’ll find out it’s quite common. Give yourself the grace. ---
**Author:** ![anon34403379](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/9de053/32.png) [@anon34403379](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon34403379)\ **Post date:** [October 14, 2022, 11:04am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/188 "2022-10-14T11:04:53Z")
These things happen and this is probably a one-off. What was going on in that situation that you just weren’t into? ---
**Author:** ![anon61369667](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a6a055/32.png) [@anon61369667](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon61369667)\ **Post date:** [October 15, 2022, 11:50am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/189 "2022-10-15T11:50:37Z")
It’s a natural body function that can occur when our system is under stress. Talking with your partner about it can help ease your worries and should help. If your partner isn’t supportive, don’t feel bad about moving on from them. Also don’t let porn give you the sense that you should be able to be hard all the time. No one sees the scenes where the actors couldn’t get it up and they had to sub him out for someone else. ---
**Author:** ![healthy-white-sailfish](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/healthy-white-sailfish/32/284929_2.png) [@healthy-white-sailfish](https://community.mymojo.com/u/healthy-white-sailfish)\ **Post date:** [October 17, 2022, 11:01pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/190 "2022-10-17T23:01:55Z")
You’re not obligated to feel a certain way about sex – it is meant to be experienced and enjoyed. Just because you experience erection issues does not mean you are not attracted to the person or incapable of performing. It means you were not present and that happens sometimes. Communicate and be clear – the rest will fall in line 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![anon7150496](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/839c29/32.png) [@anon7150496](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon7150496)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2022, 1:46am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/191 "2022-10-20T01:46:45Z")
It is OK to feel nervous or not aroused with a situation. It is important to be comfortable with a situation and the person you are with, and sometimes your body is reacting to your emotional state despite your conscious effort ---
**Author:** ![anon23138533](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3d9bf3/32.png) [@anon23138533](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon23138533)\ **Post date:** [October 20, 2022, 7:43am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/192 "2022-10-20T07:43:23Z")
Everyone experiences some kind of issue in their lifetime, it doesn’t mean it’s always going to happen ---
**Author:** ![separate-indigo-barracuda](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/separate-indigo-barracuda/32/208436_2.png) [@separate-indigo-barracuda](https://community.mymojo.com/u/separate-indigo-barracuda)\ **Post date:** [October 21, 2022, 2:06pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/193 "2022-10-21T14:06:21Z")
Other people have gotten past this and you will too. Also, what’s the worst case scenario if you never get it up during sex? It would be a huge bummer for sure, but some people have it way worse and still find ways to be happy. But keep working on it, never give up ---
**Author:** ![architectural-indigo-hamster](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/architectural-indigo-hamster/32/308859_2.png) [@architectural-indigo-hamster](https://community.mymojo.com/u/architectural-indigo-hamster)\ **Post date:** [October 31, 2022, 7:10pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/194 "2022-10-31T19:10:24Z")
Hey it’s cool, are you feeling stressed about something sex or outside of sex. Don’t worry, if it outsiders therapy is a great option. You’re not alone. ---
**Author:** ![anon20089348](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/6de8d8/32.png) [@anon20089348](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon20089348)\ **Post date:** [November 8, 2022, 3:02am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/195 "2022-11-08T03:02:42Z")
Pretty much every guy is going to go through the same experience. Try not to be heard on yourself and don’t dwell on it. ---
**Author:** ![courageous-lavender-wasp](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/courageous-lavender-wasp/32/207089_2.png) [@courageous-lavender-wasp](https://community.mymojo.com/u/courageous-lavender-wasp)\ **Post date:** [November 9, 2022, 11:50am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/196 "2022-11-09T11:50:16Z")
They are not alone. Erection issues are clearly very common. It doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with them. ---
**Author:** ![magic-blush-hookworm](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/magic-blush-hookworm/32/328673_2.png) [@magic-blush-hookworm](https://community.mymojo.com/u/magic-blush-hookworm)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2022, 2:45am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/197 "2022-11-16T02:45:33Z")
There’s most likely nothing wrong with you. You might have had a bad day or be stressed or tired or whatever. There’s so many things than can effect you erections and sexual function. Give yourself some grace in this and be patient. ---
**Author:** ![endless-plum-halibut](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/endless-plum-halibut/32/324247_2.png) [@endless-plum-halibut](https://community.mymojo.com/u/endless-plum-halibut)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2022, 5:23pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/198 "2022-11-23T17:23:14Z")
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