# What would you say to someone who has experienced erection issues for the first time? **URL:** \ **Category:** 🍆 Erection issues\ **Created:** [July 30, 2021, 6:26am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439 "2021-07-30T06:26:21Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 9
**Author:** ![puzzled-magenta-salamander](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/puzzled-magenta-salamander/32/225572_2.png) [@puzzled-magenta-salamander](https://community.mymojo.com/u/puzzled-magenta-salamander)\ **Post date:** [September 9, 2022, 3:25pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/162 "2022-09-09T15:25:08Z")
I would encourage them to reflect on the situation and what made it different from all the times they did get it up. think about ways to emulate all the other times moving forward rather than the one in which it didnt go well. ---
**Author:** ![influential-bronze-stingray](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/influential-bronze-stingray/32/266309_2.png) [@influential-bronze-stingray](https://community.mymojo.com/u/influential-bronze-stingray)\ **Post date:** [September 10, 2022, 4:49pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/163 "2022-09-10T16:49:17Z")
Don’t worry it’s completely normal, relax, and enjoy in other ways. Your pleasure shouldn’t be from their reaction ---
**Author:** ![voluminous-tan-magpie](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/voluminous-tan-magpie/32/319563_2.png) [@voluminous-tan-magpie](https://community.mymojo.com/u/voluminous-tan-magpie)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2022, 5:12pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/164 "2022-09-11T17:12:51Z")
I know the feeling. It is scary and I wish I could say I have the solution, but I guess I appreciate you talking about it. ---
**Author:** ![anon23138533](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3d9bf3/32.png) [@anon23138533](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon23138533)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2022, 10:00am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/165 "2022-09-12T10:00:42Z")
It happens to many people. Speak to your GP, and family and friends who you are able to confide in. Also speak to your partner. ---
**Author:** ![anon94824566](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed655f/32.png) [@anon94824566](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon94824566)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2022, 5:38am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/166 "2022-09-13T05:38:23Z")
dont trip bro u gonna be aite ---
**Author:** ![loud-orange-tuna](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/loud-orange-tuna/32/239515_2.png) [@loud-orange-tuna](https://community.mymojo.com/u/loud-orange-tuna)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2022, 8:18pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/167 "2022-09-13T20:18:02Z")
Humans are unpredictable, and no one is perfect. This will not happen every time, and this situation can be worked upon by getting out of your head in the moment. ---
**Author:** ![anon26556194](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea666f/32.png) [@anon26556194](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon26556194)\ **Post date:** [September 16, 2022, 12:36pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/168 "2022-09-16T12:36:45Z")
I would reassure them and share my own similar experiences. ---
**Author:** ![anon75685543](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/34f0e0/32.png) [@anon75685543](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon75685543)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2022, 4:36pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/169 "2022-09-19T16:36:09Z")
WELCOME TO REAL LIFE. We all live here. ---
**Author:** ![exciting-scarlet-goldfish](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/exciting-scarlet-goldfish/32/322571_2.png) [@exciting-scarlet-goldfish](https://community.mymojo.com/u/exciting-scarlet-goldfish)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2022, 9:00pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/170 "2022-09-19T21:00:25Z")
Search for a proper solution. There is no reason for you to keep this to yourself. ---
**Author:** ![musical-amber-giraffe](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/musical-amber-giraffe/32/260456_2.png) [@musical-amber-giraffe](https://community.mymojo.com/u/musical-amber-giraffe)\ **Post date:** [September 19, 2022, 9:43pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/171 "2022-09-19T21:43:51Z")
Dont obsess over it. I’ve done that and it doesnt help. you are not alone. it is way more common than you think. Be kind to yourself! ---
**Author:** ![realistic-coral-octopus](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/realistic-coral-octopus/32/216464_2.png) [@realistic-coral-octopus](https://community.mymojo.com/u/realistic-coral-octopus)\ **Post date:** [September 20, 2022, 5:43am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/172 "2022-09-20T05:43:43Z")
Don’t be hard on yourself out there are a lot of guys having the same issue, just look for help and don’t over think it ---
**Author:** ![anon79273016](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b19c9b/32.png) [@anon79273016](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon79273016)\ **Post date:** [September 21, 2022, 8:00am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/173 "2022-09-21T08:00:43Z")
This is something that happens to everyone sometimes, don’t be stressed over it. And try to enjoy the moment thinking in your own desire. ---
**Author:** ![anon25064593](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3be4f8/32.png) [@anon25064593](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon25064593)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2022, 1:21am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/174 "2022-09-25T01:21:09Z")
It happens to everyone at some point in time ---
**Author:** ![anon66809134](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/4af34b/32.png) [@anon66809134](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon66809134)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2022, 12:58pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/175 "2022-09-25T12:58:57Z")
It’s good to know I am not alone. However unique I feel my set of circumstances are. ---
**Author:** ![anon90094802](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/3be4f8/32.png) [@anon90094802](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon90094802)\ **Post date:** [September 26, 2022, 5:21pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/176 "2022-09-26T17:21:15Z")
Don’t immediately turn it into a long-term chronic problem. It might have just been a situational thing. It doesn’t mean it will happen next time. ---
**Author:** ![fiscal-olive-narwhal](https://dub1.discourse-cdn.com/flex005/user_avatar/community.mymojo.com/fiscal-olive-narwhal/32/203761_2.png) [@fiscal-olive-narwhal](https://community.mymojo.com/u/fiscal-olive-narwhal)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2022, 5:17am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/177 "2022-09-27T05:17:03Z")
It’s probably just a mental thing- the more you overthink it the more it might be an issue ---
**Author:** ![anon85338978](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ecae2f/32.png) [@anon85338978](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon85338978)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2022, 5:58am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/178 "2022-09-27T05:58:29Z")
Don’t let it consume you. Move past it and just acceot that your body is working the way its supposed to. Dont give up! ---
**Author:** ![anon58412071](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@anon58412071](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon58412071)\ **Post date:** [September 27, 2022, 2:54pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/179 "2022-09-27T14:54:04Z")
Give yourself a break. Honestly it’s not necessary to aim negativity your own way for something that happened out of your control. TV is vastly exergerated and you should focus more on what’s not present to make you feel comfortable and take measures to make yourself more comfortable another time. Lie together a bit, focus on the intimacy and be okay with the fact that an erection can take time to build up. Be in the moment with your partner and let that chemistry be the aim. ---
**Author:** ![anon5604565](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f6c823/32.png) [@anon5604565](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon5604565)\ **Post date:** [October 1, 2022, 4:36am UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/180 "2022-10-01T04:36:23Z")
You’re definitely not alone. Try different things and hopefully you have partners that are supportive through this as well. A supportive partner(s) is half of the battle already taken care of. And I also wouldn’t get too comparative based on what other methods different people are using. I’m currently taking Cialis, and I’m quite young. It’s been working for me, but I’m definitely trying not to rely on it. But I have to be ok with taking baby steps. ---
**Author:** ![anon93896353](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a9a28c/32.png) [@anon93896353](https://community.mymojo.com/u/anon93896353)\ **Post date:** [October 2, 2022, 12:54pm UTC](https://community.mymojo.com/t/what-would-you-say-to-someone-who-has-experienced-erection-issues-for-the-first-time/2439/181 "2022-10-02T12:54:50Z")
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