I also feel concerned that saying this or having these conversations will feel like I’m preparing for failure.
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Weird, especially with a new partner but willing to do so knowing it’s helpful
I have been more
Open with issues about new partners, and to be fair it does take a lot of pressure off
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When I was in a relationship, I felt I could speak about it with my partner openly and not feel any rejection. Now that I am single, I am not sure how to bring it up to a stranger, but I will focus on taking ownership of my own needs.
I honestly would rather not bring it up with someone unless it comes to it, but if it happens at the time I have no issue with being like “dont worry I can have this happen sometimes, its pretty normal for me lets try something else”
I’ve spoken about it with my partner and he has been supportive. But i do still avoid bringing it up as it always feels like a heavy serious conversation which just is a bit awkward too. I really wish i could find a way to be confident enough to just talk about it more casually and light hearted so it doesn’t feel so heavy for me. It’s something i need to work on
Man, it’s truly wonderful when you can talk openly about things with your partner. It feels like a gift to realize that your partner is supporting you, making the burden feel lighter. This allows you to focus more on finding a permanent solution rather than just trying to cover things up with lies or other distractions.
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I would never, until I realized I was holding on to so much that it was my erections. One I released that valve I’ve felt so much better. It didn’t solve everything, I’m still working on my inner critic, but my anxiety levels have gone down considerably.
It is/was difficult in the beginning with my fiancée because I am not used to being vulnerable or open, however I find the more open and vulnerable I am with my fiancée about the issues, it takes the stress away and it is easier to have these difficult conversations
On the way into a new relationship and while it’s a concern that they may react differently to my hopes is ma incredibly comfortable talking to them generally and this should be a similar topic really
My wife and I are beginning to see how both of our communication styles have contributed to how distant we have been. I’m definitely more of a peacemaker and I tend to just drop things when I think they will get difficult. She is definitely very strong willed and has a strong moral compass so when I do bring something up there can be an initial negative reaction that, even if the result of the conversation is one that results in greater understanding, makes it very nerve-wracking to bring up. We love these qualities about each other, but it has affected us more than we realized. We both have to work on changing that dynamic to be better communicators with each other.
Feels like a weight has lifted off my shoulders after opening up to my wife. I think it has definitely brought us closer.
My partner doesn’t understand that I’m visually stimulated, but we’ve recently met and I havent told her, but I think it’s going to be a good idea to explain this to her.
There is an intellectual gap that makes communication difficult. There is also a lot of insecurity and resultant defensiveness which gets in the way of sorting things out. Right now it feels too overwhelming. I just feel that I made another bad choice and now I am trapped
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I’m super comfortable talking about issues. This idea is great to make sure the other person doesn’t think it’s their fault.
I feel comfortable about it now since I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 3 years now (however, since it was mostly long distance during that time, it was maybe more difficult with ED issues)
She says she’s never minded me finishing quickly so I don’t talk about it much, but it’s something I care about it and I think she maybe does a little bit
Feels like a taboo topic but with the right partner can help build confidence
definitely a hard conversation to have. feels embarrassing.
That’s something I never even thought of but seeing what they actually think would be better than completely catastrophizing over it