The words never come out like the great prep thoughts of what I plan to say. So, normally I just stay quiet.
I was very open with my ex and we originally started this treatment together which was a huge help with her encouragement however over time she become less patient
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Different, but my partner is upset with me after finding out that I watch porn & masturbate. She feels that I don’t desire her, which isn’t true, but I do feel anxiety around sex compared to masturbation. I don’t know how to navigate my urge to masturbate while I feel it’s breaking our relationship.
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I don’t think I would necessarily jump at having the conversation pre the situation but I am better at owning it when it comes up, and explaining that I’m still enjoying it. Sometimes I subsequently get out of my head and things start to work. This is new for me. I used to go into panic and shut down mode over-apologising and killing any mode straight away. I’m lowly learning not to do this anymore
I feel my wife I some what supportive of my erection issue, but it still feels like a rejection to her and openly talking about it might cause her to take it personally
Both are extremely difficult to bring up as there’s this sense of internal shame that I’ve not focused on fixing myself earlier. So why should this person wait for me.
This honestly doesn’t make me that nervous. I wouldn’t necessarily announce it ahead of time for a one night stand, but if it became an issue, I’d have no trouble suggesting trying something different because I have some performance anxiety issues.
I am more open to sharing it ahead of time as there is always the other person to consider. They may take rejection and that ultimately could put up more barriers, but also they may and probably have dealt with it before so why not share it?
I usually feel uncomfortable. But I have been trying to say more. I have improved but I’m very far from being confident when talking about it
I haven’t found any woman willing to see me as a romantic/sexual option yet. I’m turning 32 next month…
I’ve discussed my issues with my partner openly, my fears and how they make me overthink. She has been very supportive and helpful. This is intimacy, its something that stresses you out, and if thats the case you deserve a partner who is willing to alleviate this stress for you.
I struggle heavily with openly discussing most things related to my sexual relationship with my wife. I have deep rooted sexual insecurities but I have done a better job recently of trying to discuss our sex life with my wife. It is often a really strained conversation for me but I want to keep trying to talk about these things so I can get better at it
Recently, my partner has expressed concern that I was not cumming for a while in a past few sex sessions we’ve had. This began to affect her self esteem and question whether I am attracted to her or not.. I’ve communicated to her that the problem was 100% on me and none of it was on her.