My idea that I know I’m enough and I’m good because I have been told and I shouldn’t let the voice say otherwise. Sometimes it’ll go soft or sometimes I won’t be in the mood. As long as communication is there.
The thought that I didn’t get hard and that it will keep happening
The worry that I’ll get soft even if I manage to get hard. “Oh it’s working!…. What if it stops… oh no… negative thoughts… womp womp… pushing limp rope”
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Constant worrying of will it happen again
All or nothing thinking. That taking time to get fully hard is a failure
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I also have anorgasmia problem. I have been getting hard and penetrating for 7 years but I can’t ejaculate. I can also ejaculate easily while masturbating. Now, after the training I received here, I think and feel that I can ejaculate inside my girlfriend. I hope we both succeed bro 
I am more than allowed to enjoy myself, pleasure others, and participate in adult activities. I need to show her my magic.
That even if I get hard, and start having sex, I’ll go soft part way through and be embarrassed
If I cant get hard that is okay and I can still enjoy sex
That this isn’t permanent. I can recover and enjoy sex
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I can get hard, stay hard, and last long enough to pleasure my wife. I’ve done it before, and I can do it again.
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Why I can be really hard one minute, then go soft very quickly on one occasion, then on another, stay hard for ages and manage to orgasm 3 times
I know that I can perform well with my wife, I have before and I will again. My thoughts of not being able to get hard or stay hard are valid and reasonable but not inevitable.
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I’ll get hard during foreplay but then lose it during penetration
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I loose my erection as and when I am in the process of penetration.
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Hit and miss, sometimes there in the moment, feel the sensations and get hard, next thing, full wave of dread on soft again
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That if I can’t get hard it isn’t the end of the world and I make it a bigger deal than it is, we can still satisfy each other in other ways and can always try again. Sometimes I get it up and stay hard for sex other times I don’t and it’s fine either way, just be open and express my feeling a with my wife
I couldnt get hard last time so I won’t again. I didnt let her release last time so she won’t enjoy it. But I have gotten hard before so I shouldn’t think that way. Try it and see what happens. Fact over assumption, she had a good time last time too
Worried that I lost my erection half way through and telling myself it happens all the time and my partner won’t enjoy it as much. In reality it doesn’t happen all the time, and sometimes when I stop thinking about losing my erection it comes back. My wife still enjoys the sex and time with me even if I can’t stay hard the whole time.
Believe that my partner is attracted to me and that there’s many ways we can be intimate without there needing to be porn-like penetrative sex.