The men I admire who I know are willing to take the risk of saying how relationships and sex really are for them (and own their own shotnaround it). I’d like to say they don’t feel shame but they do … in degrees - but they still do it. I respect the courage and dignity for self and their partners
Strong , confident , sexy , unapologetic, lives for the moment
First thing that pops in my head is Justin Timberlake. Not a masculine guy but owns it and is confident
Someone i work with. He’s extremely busy and successful, but when you talk with him, he gives you his full attention like you are the only person in the world who matters. Somehow he always has the energy to give a smile, even though he likely has hard days. He comes off as a leader but in a gentle and supportive way.
In addition to those things, I’m trying to be strong enough to own, feel, and express my feelings, even the hard ones.
One of my closest friends, because he is comfortably himself but not aligned with traditional ideas of masculinity
Honestly, Elon Musk. He’s suffered the personal and professional consequences of being his authentic self possibly more than anyone who has ever been at his level.
I’ve never thought about this until now but I don’t think I have any.
Bukele. Principaled, dedicated, funny, confident.
I really don’t have one person in mine but some of the characteristics of an ideal role model would be authentic, being able to express emotion, smart, and strong.
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I’ve never really thought about it, but my Dad and my best friend are both better people than I have ever been
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Jordan peterson is someone I look up to. He’s very confident in his mannerism and speech. Dares you to think outside the box
I struggle to see the consequences he has faced compared to so many other real role models. He was handed everything on a silver platter. I understand you see him as genuine, but being genuinely evil isn’t a good thing.
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Thank you for sharing. In terms of ownership and responsibility;
How well does Musk
embrace sharing of
vulnerability?
Men wanted …*
Ernest Shackleton <
Integrity in leadership.
Displayed the actions and behaviours he wanted to see.
- Men wanted for
hazardous journey.
Low wages, bitter cold,
long hours of complete darkness.
Safe return doubtful.
Honour and recognition
in event of success.
Dad, strong and keeps fighting
Confident in who they are
Having no positive male role models around me growing up, I ended up having much more connection and friendship with women and, to be honest, I’m not mad about that. I have very few male friends because I’m just so repelled by what most men consider ‘manly’ just seems so tragically backward and amounts to nothing but cultural brainwashing.
When it comes to male role models I thought came close to what I see as being authentically masculine, I’d say maybe Keanu Reeves, David Lynch, Stephen Fry, Tom Hardy, John Waters…all very different men and that’s the point. There is not ONE shining example of what a man should be like nor should there be.
All of those men live life on their terms and are all strong, capable, compassionate, empathetic, creative, and vulnerable in so many ways. Artists are always the best at this, I find.
It’s taken me a long time to really embrace and celebrate my masculinity because society is just flooded with men doing it all wrong (politicians and gas-bagging “influencers” are the primary offenders).
Being a man is being strong and confident but not an asshole. Getting things done without expecting anything in return. Being a protector and warrior without dominating. And recognising that vulnerability is strength, emotion is wisdom, and empathy, compassion, and integrity mean everything in relationships.
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I think the best example of masculinity there has ever been is Ali. Brave, confident, expressive, successful and strong, but not at all domineering of others. Competitive, supportive, warm, full of energy and life. Tupac was the same. The warrior poet. That’s the best version of me too and I’m gonna get him back
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My buddy luke, not a conventionally ‘attractive’ guy but the most authentic man I know, doesn’t care what others think of him and just bounces through life. Also my buddy reg, has a 3 dimensional view of what a man is, not afraid to be emotional or intellectual and confident in his own skin
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I think I take my uncle as a role model. He has broad shoulders, a strong and confident posture. He is also very confident in his speech. He is talented and knowledgeable in many subjects. When you look at him, you can feel his hidden authority in the environment.
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