Day 15 of using Mojo. I’ve used it before but that was a while ago. I’m feeling good. Going on a third date tomorrow. We had good sex the first date and great sex the second date, but it’s been almost two weeks since I’ve seen her last. The sex was good but I noticed getting fully hard wasn’t as natural as I wanted it to be. The second time was better but still could use improvement. I think one of my biggest areas to improve is my inner critic vs my inner coach. I hear my inner critic a lot throughout the day. Today I practiced really visualizing my inner coach and I want to do this more often when negative thoughts come up. It helps a lot.
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I’m the same, I always zoom in on the negatives. I know that headspace where you start scanning for mistakes and convincing yourself it “wasn’t good enough”, especially when performance anxiety is in the mix. But you had satisfying sex 2 out of 2 times. That’s a win, take it. Don’t push yourself down after the fact. Also, trying to have “perfect sex” every single time is not realistic. Sometimes it’ll be amazing, sometimes it’ll be a bit awkward, sometimes it’ll be somewhere in between. That’s normal. If “perfect” becomes the standard, it just feeds the anxiety. Next time might feel even better, or it might not. Either way, you’re fine, and it will keep improving over time.
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Don’t worry about being rock hard the entire time. I always thought I needed to be, and women expected that, so as soon as I would feel any softening I would go limp and not recover. One of the things this app has taught me is that it is natural to get softer and harder, even when you are inside a vagina. That happened with my new partner the other day. We were having sex and I went from perhaps 100% hard to 90. The old me would have freaked out, then gone soft. But because I know this is nothing to worry about, I was able to continue enjoying it and eventually orgasmed.
Don’t let great be the enemy of good!!!
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Yep … same here… the old me freaked out if it went soft, but now… I know it’ll come back… relax, breathe, simmer… believe in yourself… it’ll work…
It’s not easy… but it gets easier.., you got this..