There was a few recent months where my wife and I were constantly arguing. It was difficult because i am very opinionated, and she often feels the need to be right. I felt it was easy to navigate through these moments of conflicts when we both realized it is not about being right, and to stay level-headed no matter how brain squeezing something can be.
I have so often, in relationships, foregone my own needs in order to provide someone with their, ostensibly putting an end to an argument before it really takes place.
I’ve never had to navigate a 10/10 argument before, but that brings up a lot of resentment and feelings of not being connected with others. And that’s on me. I need to be better about bringing up my feelings, even if I have to weather an argument in order to be heard.