Confused and unsure

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I’ve been in a relationship with a girl for 3 years now. Our sex life has decreased massively. I’ve found myself not being physically attracted to her anymore. More emotionally attracted. I don’t know if its my own personal preferences or my porn addiction and the unrealistic expectations for normal women.

A new girl started my job and Im very attracted to her. Both physically and personality wise. She is my type on paper. Petite, blonde, gorgeous. This has never happened to me before. So I’m both curious to see if there is anything there and filled for of guilt and shame.

Thats not to mention my curiosity for trans girls. Id class myself as gynesexual/ bisexual. But I still havent come out to anyone. Ive seen 2 escorts in the past but nothing proper

Im 15 days sober and I’m just unsure what to do right now. Do I ride it out with my current girlfriend and see if things improve? Even if we did break up I dont think I’d want to get into anything serious with the other girl, though I’d be curious. Possibly just explore my sexuality and see if could work up the courage to come out.

Any thoughts or advice would be appreciated, thanks

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Hey man, I wouldn’t beat yourself up. Sounds like you’re going through a lot.

  1. Congrats on the sobriety, hope it helps you clear your mind.

  2. It’s normal to feel attraction to multiple people. You can’t control your thoughts, just your actions.

  3. Is your current girlfriend someone special? If yes, hold on. If you know in your gut no, trust yourself and break it off. Better for you both in the long run.

  4. Good for you for being open-minded about your sexuality. Take the time you need & don’t feel like you have to rush anything, but think who in your life may be open-minded enough to hear you out. Tons of people here to support you

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