Considered normal or nah?

👁️ Body image
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I’ve always struggled with my weight, teetering between size 32" (waist) and 34".
Sometimes in my life I am thinner, and other times I am larger. Unfortunately at the moment going through a larger phase. But for some reason this time I am really affected by it. I think what affects me the most is the fact that my face is still thin and my legs look great and my butt… But it’s just my midsection and it just keeps expanding. I really find it off putting and it is completely stopped me from having any kind of sex life because I just feel like nobody in there right mind would want to sleep with someone that looks like me.
Now that I’ve set it out loud and I’ve written it down I don’t think it is normal. And it is probably something that I should speak to it therapist or at least someone trained in body dysmorphia issues.

Does anybody else relate?

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Totally can. For me it’s about hypocrisy, I’m not attracted to women who are fat and don’t take care of themselves. So that means I need to keep in shape as well. I let myself go after my surgery 10 years ago and wouldn’t go out and date because who would want to date a fat guy when he expects his woman to at least look fit, right?

You may have body dysmorphia but I have my doubts. You can compliment what part of your body looks good. I’d say stop being lazy, hit the gym for a bit, set fitness goals and watch your confidence get boosted. Cuz it’s just true, everybody looks better when they maintain their weight.

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I should also explain that I’ve been going to the gym for the last year because I’m tired of being a hypocrite.