I have near constant anxiety about the size of my penis because of some issues when I was a teenager. Long story short, I had sex way before I was ready, it was not good, and it was before I fully hit puberty which meant I wasn’t even fully developed. Despite knowing this, and having a statistically (slightly) larger than average penis, I am constantly insecure about its size. Every time I watch porn, I feel inadequate. I shy away from being naked in front of my wife unless I am absolutely on my “A Game”. I would consider myself a grower, not a shower, so most of the time my guy doesn’t look like much to brag about. And forget about it if I am cold, just finished a workout, or need to poop. Has anyone dealt with these types of securities and have overcome them that may be able to provide some help or insight?
Sorry, insecurities* not securities.
Hey, I’m facing the same issue you described here except the fact that I’m single since 2023. Even tough I dated quiete a lot of girls in the past I never ended up having sex due to my negative thoughts and fears regarding my penis size. Yesterday I hit my 4. th date wich a very atractive women. We ended up in bed end I stopped because I couldnt let loose my negative thoughts…It just sucks. I feel you man. Just signed up for Mojo. Am looking forward to adress this problem asap. Do you have game plan to take action?
Honestly, this app is my game plan. It has also helped me to be open about my insecurities with my wife. I understand that marriage and dating are two different worlds entirely and it can be more difficult/intimidating to discuss insecurities when dating someone new, so I feel for you. If you feel that connection with her, it may be worth talking about it openly. When I did with my wife, she almost thought it was silly. I think women think about sex a lot differently than we do, so much so it’s hard for us to comprehend. For her, there’s A LOT more to it than just the size of our D. Emotional connection is huge and being open about insecurities can sometimes deepen that connection. Lord knows she is insecure about some things too, likely things you wouldn’t even think twice about.
Also, and this is kinda out there, but I went to Reddit and saw a group called AveragePenis where guys post pics of their D and ask others to comment on whether it was small/average/etc. Since my only exposure to penises was through porn, it was pretty eye opening for me to see what and “average” penis really looks like. That helped me a bit. Remember that we compare ourselves to porn and Mandingo-size dongs, while women compare (to the extent they “compare” at all) to real life experiences with realistically sized dongs.
Last, your are not just your penis. You are a whole ass dynamic person with so much to offer beyond what’s below your belt. Great sex (regardless of penis size) comes from deep connections, and a deep connection comes from a place of vulnerability, trust, and whole-person attraction with your partner.
Hope this help my guy.