I’m very attracted to my partner but during sex, it’s hard for me to finish. When I was single ofc I watched porn and I masterbated, it’s getting hard for me to finish.
I can do it myself but I can’t do it during… I really need help and a timeline
I have had and still get this. Just try and relax and get out of your head. The less you think about it the more chance of it happening naturally
Yes but how, does going cold turkey on masterbation help?
I found that it does I have had issues on and off with that and taking a two week or break really made my pleasure of increase and be more present about what feels good.
I’ve had a similar thing, being attracted but then getting stuck and it’s hard to finish. I’m not a pro and I’m still working on it too, but one thing that seems to matter is how you masturbate. If it’s usually porn + faster pace + tighter grip + rush to finish your body can get used to that exact setup, and real sex just feels different.
I started mindful masturbation about 2 weeks ago, using lube, slower pace, lighter grip, and trying not to make every session
goal oriented. It felt awkward at first because my body wanted to snap back into autopilot, clenching, speeding up, forcing it.
For the get out of your head part, don’t think about it doesn’t work, you need something to do instead. In the moment I try a simple anchor, 5 senses exercise here, then back to what feels good. And outside sex, you can practice 1–2 simple fantasies you can use if you start monitoring yourself, not anything crazy, just something that keeps arousal going. It’s more a retraining thing over weeks than an instant fix.
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