Pressure
I feel like I live in a constant state of anxiety, I worry about everything at all times and no matter how hard I try I can’t seem to get my brain to slow down. When I first started having sex with my partner it took nearly a week for me to be able to finally maintain an erection, I had never had an issue with my erections before this even in previous sexual encounters but for some reason I had so much anxiety when first having sex with my current partner, her reaction to it was to get very upset at me and make me feel terrible and ashamed about it, she would always apologize later for yelling at me about it but during that first week continued to get very upset as we tried every night, I believe it took 9 days for me to finally relax and maintain an erection.
Yes because I want to make it the best experience for my wife I don’t want to lose the spark just because I can’t perform
I am never anxious during sex, as my erection at that point is in ‘fight mode’ and I am able to enjoy it without the worry! My anxiety is prior to engagement when I fear that I won’t have an adequate erection, due a couple instances in the past when I failed to have an erection resulting in the worry that it may happen again…
All the time, it really affects me to the point where I don’t have a sex life unless I’m in a relationship
Yes, all the time. The fear of not being able to perform is something I struggle with a lot
When I am in the sone, about to penetrate, I can feel the stress of performing arrives. Its like im more trying to make the partner feel good than to enjoy it myself.
Yes. Then I start to think about the situation n wether she’s enjoying it or whatever, I concentrate on things I don’t need too but can’t help it then I feel it going down… then boom game over. I just want to enjoy it n not think a million and one thoughts in the process
Mind wanders about can I get hard!! And stay Hard!
I don’t find her hot enough. Sometimes I need her hand strokes to get it up
Yes it makes it impossible
Yes
Only with new partners. If I struggle and get it in my head early, I have no chance of getting it up
I get nervous that I won’t be able to perform. And then I can’t
Kills my arousal and my kills the urge to want to have sex
I can anxious with girls who I really like and want to perform and please which results in finding it hard to get and maintain an erection. With girls who I am not so invested in and don’t seem to worry about then there is no erection issues. This is a mental battle
Yes. I get anxious during sex and end up ejaculating too quickly.
Yes. I get anxious before and it’s difficult to get or stay aroused. Other times if I do get hard enough for sex, I get anxious during sex and end up ejaculating too quickly.
Anxious before causing it not to happen and the snowball affect continues to roll.
in the past it has always been difficult with a new partner, usually the problem solves itself after we have sex a few times and I am more comfortable with them. Recently, though, it has been more pervasive, and with my current partner the issue is ongoing after we have slept together 6 or 7 times