Performance anxiety, fear of not gaining and sustaining an erection and not being able to have penetrative sex
Im always anxious about sex. Im anxious about all the time and cause of that i cant have an erection. I use to be a really good performer but not anymore unfortunatly
One small thought will trigger a rollercoaster of other thoughts and I’ll think back to the last time it happened. I don’t necessarily feel anxious, but things kind of spiral and the thoughts are there
I do. I’m usually worried about keeping a erection.
I used to get anxious during foreplay all the time with my ex. I think porn use may have caused this anxiety. I failed my first couple attempts of having sex at 15 because I was just so nervous. She was very understanding and would ask me what was wrong and didn’t make me feel judged but I still got the anxiety. I would always think to myself “it would really suck if I started getting anxious right now” during foreplay and sure enough I would. I started taking gas station sex pills which worked until my anxiety started getting worse and even they didn’t work. Then I started taking Cialis which worked great and really improved my confidence. I even started having sex without cialis a few times. I’ve been taking sex pills since I was 15 and im 17 now. Im sick of it.
I never had any problems until just recently. My girlfriend and I were doing a lot of foreplay beforehand and then we had transitioned into oral. She had performed on me and brought me to almost finish but I stopped her so I could go down on her. I spent a good amount of time down on her and by the time i was done, my erection was basically gone. I tried to get it back up so we could actually have intercourse but i just wouldn’t. I think it may have just been the constant up and down from that long session but it has messed with my head big time and i haven’t been able to achieve a full erection with her since
I get anxious during sex whenever I need to actually put my penis in my partner. I feel good whenever we are just touching each other or masturbating, but it’s that moment of penis in vagina that I don’t have much experience with. Whenever I’m hard and then try to actually have sex with my partner, I lose my erection. Sad!
Yes I get anxious that I won’t be able to cum
I really feel like I’m letting my partner down, and its getting in the way of us being closer. We have been dating for months, and i feel like she is not that physically attracted to me because of this. So there feels like there’s even more riding on it when we try. She’s being really supportive, but I am not sure how long she’ll be patient
Yes, I get anxious during sex…it started with a ridiculous preoccupation about my size (I’m by no means “small” and my GF have never complained). I sometimes get pulled away from the moment by thoughts of work or other “regular life” tasks and it seems impossible to regain my erection. The anxiety builds upon itself and it’s basically over at that point.
Yes, I over think about getting hard and then when I can’t I feel like I’m disappointing her.
I think excessive porn use is to blame. I have been watching porn for a very long time and when I became sexually active, I realised that I was using images of porn to stimulate me. I feel that abandoning porn is the best solution and finding your partner’s body should be the only thing that excites me. I hope that it works for those who suffer too. I’m still going sober from no porn for about a month and I’m patient to see the progress.
Yes. I get anxious during sex. I think about getting an erection. There is the anxiety. Erection could start but goes down after a few seconds
I get anxious leading up to sex, i was completely fine until a stressful work situation and life got the best of me about 3 months ago. When I go to make love to my wife, I feel like I’m going to disappoint her even before we get started. She can sense this and then sex is ruined before it starts which takes me even deeper down the rabbit hole as it doesn’t instill confidence. It’s like I’m making it worse on myself by trying over and over.
Yes. I have self doubt as to whether is will be able to get and keep and erectile. I also worry about disappointing my spouse.
Constantly anxious since being a teenager, always worried I’m not going to be able to to perform and can’t get out of my head and enjoy the moment.
Particularly struggle in new relationships as the issues around applying a condom and the worry that my lack of performance could ruin my chances with a potential long term love interest really inhibit my ability to get and maintain an erection
Yes. Takes away the passion and excitement. Makes me feel numb and disinterested.
When me and my girlfriend try to have sex it usually ends up with me not being able to get hard whether that’s because I’m anxious about if I’m going to be able to please her due to my size or because I’m just not feeling aroused enough even though we are both naked in a room alone. It’s getting to the point where I can’t get hard enough to even penetrate and I have to just play with her so that I can please her and we end the night her getting pleasure and we still willowing because I still can’t get it up. It’s alright though she is super understand and I will make this go away soon. (P.S.) I haven’t told her this yet but I love her.
Makes me feel less manly
Lately I have not been able to keep erection, till 10 years I had a great sex life