Soo I’ve been dealing with erections problems for a couples years now , I no longer have nocturnal erections, and when I’m in front of a partner I have performance anxiety. But when I watch porn I get semi to fully erect everytime . Idk if a break from porn is the right step or just continuing masterbation without porn . But I’m feeling stuck , any suggestions
I’d probably start by ditching porn. Try other kinds of stimulation. Audio can work, but ideally you should be able to lean more on your own fantasy so you’re not dependent on external stuff. You can mix it up as well.
Also, porn and masturbation aren’t the same. I’d keep masturbating, but try doing it mindfully, without making finishing the only goal. Slow it down and focus on the sensations. I’m still learning this myself and it’s harder than I expected. It’s normal if you can’t cum at first without slipping back into autopilot, speeding up, tightening your grip, all that. I posted about this a few days ago and got loads of really useful advice. Have a look at that thread. Read and do Directed masturbation exercise here on the app.
And I’d be careful not to overdo solo play. Maybe 1–2 times a week, depending on how sexually active you are otherwise. If you’re using up all your sexual energy solo, there’s naturally less left for your partner, and it can make it harder to get hard and stay hard when it actually matters. Make sure you are having a lot more real sex than solo if you can.
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This sounds a lot like me. I tried everything else so for me, the next logical step was stopping porn. It’s been 30 days now (just focussing on sex with my wife, no porn, masturbation or orgasm on my own) I like it so much I want to continue and I’m told that since I could get hard with porn, my issue is likely PIED and not regular ED so I just need to stop watching porn. I will keep this up for at least 90 days and see what happens
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So what about for a single guy , that’s dating around . I would have to communicate my situation every time we are about to have sex .
Thank you
How certain are you that you don’t have nocturnal erections?