The missus said that I dont get erections with her and I dont want to have sex with her.
She looked really dejected this morning and now i feel that i’m letting her down.
Would love it if I could feel aroused by her and by being around her… both her and I would feel so much better.
Any tips guys?
Does she know you’re on Mojo? Or asked differently, are you willing to share it with her? Even if not, talking openly about your issues (in a way that doesn’t portray any kind of blame, of course) may help you both heal. Have a sit down with her and talk your hearts out, even if the topic may feel difficult to breach at first.
Of course you don’t need to talk about anything that doesn’t sit right with you, but with any topic you’re fine discussing, my experience is that usually the other person stops having negative emotions once they start to understand.
The same of course also applies to topics that may concern her. Does she feel unattractive due to the situation? Also put effort into understanding her, her motivations, what moves her, etc.
Most important is to have an honest conversation, no blame, no judgement. Then things unfold from there.