Fertility and Performance Anxiety

🍆 Erection issues
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Hi everyone, here is my story.

My wife and I have been married for three years and have had great sex the whole time with no issues from either party. Recently we started some fertility treatments to help boost our chances of conception (induced ovulation and timed intercourse). This went well the first time. The second time it was very difficult for me to maintain an erection. This was the start of my issue.

Since that moment, I have been in my head with worry about performing, not only for conception, but to pleasure my wife. I can get hard and do fine with oral sex, but when it comes time for penetrative sex I worry and lose my erection. I’ve had some luck taking a break and then jumping back into sex, but this isn’t ideal for a number of reasons. My goal is to deal with my inner critic and reduce my performance anxiety.

Anyone else been through something similar?

Best of luck to everyone on their journey.

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Almost the exact same issue here. Performance anxiety started with the pressures of trying to time sex around ovulation for conception. I’ve had some success resetting after a failure to launch episode by focusing on breathing to get out of fight or flight mode. It’s a journey and the first step is starting. Best of luck and you’re not alone!

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When my wife and I were trying to get pregnant, it added stress to know we needed to have sex at certain times to increase the chance of getting pregnant. I visited the doctor and got Viagra. I’m glad I did at the time. I don’t want it as a long-term solution, but I’m thankful it helped us to get pregnant.

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My wife and I had the same issues.
After several I.V.F. treatments, we have a wonderful daughter. That was 32 years ago.
I struggle with PA to this day.

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